My sex drive is stronger than his

[alb04]

My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year and when we do have sex it's wonderful....I just wish we had more of it. Once a week just isn't enough for me! I don't mind being the one initiating things--in fact I'm rather used to it. But like any other woman, I want to feel desired...and to be truthful, I want him to initiate things more often. He knows that he doesn't have a strong sex drive and freely admits it. How do I bring this up with him?

Also-he loves to recieve oral sex (who doesn't? :-)) which is great because I love to give it. However, I like to receive too and he's not as giving as I'd like him to be...How can I get him to return the favor more often without making him feel inadequate?

Help!!

[bloodtippedrose]

yeah Im not a guy so I shouldnt be here but

i have a strong sex drive too. which is cool and everything. I also had a boyfriend with a low sex drive. it didnt work out (not cuz of the sex but that was just extra)

Next guy had the same sex drive as me which is awesome but really exhausting. Basically I think chicks can never be happy. But more importantly we have came along way from the 1950's and sex is a huge thing in a relationship and have fun while youre in it but your relationship with him was not meant to be.

Good luuuuuuck


Edit: also i think this shouldve been posted in the intimate section rather than ask a male

[alb04]

yeah i thought about putting it in the intimate forum but I really wanted a guys opinion on the matter....thanks for your input though . I think you are right....we never are happy haha

[Mish]

You need to spice things up with him. Do something different, break out of the routine, use imagination and role play. Sex is a lot more than just two bodies touching each other, it has a lot of psychological and emotional parts as well. Find out what he's turn ons are and use them. If you don't things will become even worse. The idea of routine like, monotonous sex in itself will become repulsive and old very quickly.

[bloodtippedrose]

hehe. Mess that boi UP.

then find a new one

[Mish]

(Shrugs)...


alb04 I just read in another thread that your man is 16 years older than you. Yes, you will find that with age male libido goes down hill (See advantages / disadvantages of dating older guys). You will need to exercise a lot of patience and variety in your routine. Things like "Viagra" also pop to mind (Don't laugh, I know even 20 somethings who use it). You'll need to exercise a lot of psychological and emotional turn on behaviors. There is hope, but don't expect a lot. The older he gets, the less you should expect. Depending on his age, once a week could be seen as an acceptable moderation.

[vashti]

Viagara at 20, Mish? That is just wrong. If you can't have an erection at 20, you are suffering from a hormonal problem or mental health problem. The doctors who are prescribing it aren't addressing the root of the problem.

Anyway, OP - yes, it is true the male sex drive declines with age. It isn't going to get any better, and he is normal. What the rest of these guys failed to understand is that a reduced sex drive means a reduced interest in sex - this is NOT a problem with erectile dysfunction which can be solved with Viagara (at least, not as you describe it).

As for him not being generous in the oral sex department, I think you need to just tell him straight out that you like it when he does it and wishhe would do it more often. If he already knows you do, and chooses not to, it is because he is either selfish or lazy. I don't think there is a cure for selfish or lazy.

[Mish]

Viagara at 20, Mish? That is just wrong. If you can't have an erection at 20, you are suffering from a hormonal problem or mental health problem. The doctors who are prescribing it aren't addressing the root of the problem.

Me???

Who said anything about me???

I said there are people I know who take it in their 20s. It's fast and it's easy. Thats why they do it.

I don't, although may be fun to join the trend and try sometime.

[Mathias]

(Don't laugh, I know even 20 somethings who use it)

Hi! Name's Mathias, nice to meet you.

Anyway, speaking from experience, the above wouldn't be an issue. It's not like there's only so much in the world.

[Only-virgins]

My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year and when we do have sex it's wonderful....I just wish we had more of it. Once a week just isn't enough for me! I don't mind being the one initiating things--in fact I'm rather used to it. But like any other woman, I want to feel desired...and to be truthful, I want him to initiate things more often. He knows that he doesn't have a strong sex drive and freely admits it. How do I bring this up with him?

Also-he loves to recieve oral sex (who doesn't? :-)) which is great because I love to give it. However, I like to receive too and he's not as giving as I'd like him to be...How can I get him to return the favor more often without making him feel inadequate?

Help!!

Some how I get the feeling he isn't as attracted to you as you would hope him to be.

[GrkScorp]

hmm.. it appears someone has deleted my post on this thread.. only a moderator could do that.. and why do I simply KNOW that it was a woman who did it..

oh well.. no big deal.. just wanted to make it clear that I noticed though..

[misombra]

well girl, you're gonna have to get a big dildo. because your man ain't putting out any more. you knew that since the beginning.

[GrkScorp]

well girl, you're gonna have to get a big dildo. because your man ain't putting out any more. you knew that since the beginning.

I agree, only in a sarcastic sense..

getting a huge dildo is by far easier than fixing the problem.. but i'm too lazy to type up how to fix things.. clearly some mod doesn't want you to enjoy sex with this guy.. hmm.. must be a dildo saleswoman..

[vashti]

Grk, I've had posts that spontaneously disappear before. In fact, I had one yesterday. The mods will let you know if they find your posts more objectionable than normal.

[GrkScorp]

Grk, I've had posts that spontaneously disappear before. In fact, I had one yesterday. The mods will let you know if they find your posts more objectionable than normal.

objectionable? lol

when do I ever write something that's objectionable?

shoot, I even refered to a vagina as a "flower" to keep things clean.. i've never even used words like "d*ck" or "pu55y"..