Hi all,
Firstly, thank you all for any advice I receive.
My situation...
I'm a 27 year old girl from the UK and I met a guy via my friend through Facebook. We spent a week chatting and then met up and had some dates. Everything was amazing and we really clicked. He stayed every night, I met his family and we spent Christmas and New Year together. Then I started I guess to get a bit clingy and doubting myself. I was constantly saying to him 'do you wanna finish it' but I never ever wanted to, I just wanted him to tell me, of course not, stop being silly, which he always did. Then he started to distance himself a tiny bit over the duration of a week, his car went wrong and he had no transport, but I went down to him when he invited me. When we were together everything was amazing. Then on the 2nd of January, I went back to work and he doesn't return until Monday 7th and the entire day he didn't call or text. I'm not silly and know the 'no contact' is a sign he doesn't care. So I called him whilst I was at work and said do you wanna finish it. He kind of edged round the question until I said do you and he said 'dunno'. That told me he did and I accepted it. I called him later that night as I didn't want things to end badly. We'd been together 2.5 months so not long. He said he didn't feel the same way he did, but did still like me and care about me.
Whenever we were apart I got a little insecure and got weird with him with the 'you seem not to care etc' which i guess drove him to think 'hey maybe i don't' this is too much etc etc.
Anyway, my real problem is I want him back - we were so happy and everything was perfect until I started pushing him away. I can't accept its over. I've kept myself busy and haven't contacted him whatsoever until he contacted me yesterday as he thinks I am going away for the weekend. I guess it could seem like I've gone from wanting him so much to nothing, no contact etc, so he sent me a text and I replied saying I was so so, how are you and he didn't reply. He's been on facebook pretty much every minute and he knew I was out last night and stayed online to 1am in the morning, which i imagine was to see if i messaged him or drunkenly called him saying i missed him, etc which I didn't. I did send him a message on facebook asking him if he was ok and he said he was and asked about me and I said i was feeling weird and he said he was feeling weird to.
I just want him back and i'm not reacting to the things he is doing on facebook to make me jealous. he looks at my facebook page a couple of times every day since we split.
what does everyone think? did things get too much and he needs a break and will come back?
all his stuff is still at my flat and I have his work stuff in the boot - he has my house keys - does he want me to beg him to take me back?? i am torn and can't stop thinking about him!
thanks guys for all your replies....an anxious Jac x