How to relieve sexual frustration for college guy

[Off2College]

K, assume the following:

1. 20 yr/old virgin
2. really want to try sex out
3. not getting close with any girl at college, whatsoever
4. not a party-goer
5. most friends, at the moment, are nerdy, including himself.
6. most people work as hard, or even harder than kids at MIT
7. guy getting really tired of regular masturbation
8. guy has tried alternate masturbation styles. but same old stuff.
9. Most Important: Assume I can't get real sex

How does guy relieve sexual tension??

[Only-virgins]

Hookers. That is the only thing you have left out yet.

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[BrotherCanada]

print a flyer...sorry dude but if u don't seem to be getting any luck then hooker is the only option, keep trying there is bound to be many girls that are in the same position as you, you just have to find them

[anachronistic]

Realize that it's not that big of a deal and it would only give you more stress.

Realize that eventually you'll have a chance.

And then forget about it. Seriously, sex is not worth all this tension man.

[Only-virgins]

Seriously, sex is not worth all this tension man.

Very true but me speaking from experience ...you can only realize that truth after you have had sex....as long as you have never had sex it will seem like a mind blowing experience that must be attained at all costs and if not stress and tension occurs.

[GrkScorp]

1. 20 yr/old virgin
2. really want to try sex out
3. not getting close with any girl at college, whatsoever
4. not a party-goer
5. most friends, at the moment, are nerdy, including himself.
7. guy getting really tired of regular masturbation
8. guy has tried alternate masturbation styles. but same old stuff.
9. Most Important: Assume I can't get real sex

anyway.. let's start and call it a night..

I'm not going to bother explaining all the things that have been going wrong, and what has caused what.. if you honestly care for such trivial psychoanalysis, PM me..

1. The first thing I want you to do is stop masturbating.. STOP! NOW! (7 & 8) have caused almost every other issue you've listed.. men are practical creatures, so you don't even feel compelled to go to parties because the imaginary-cost is too high, and it's easier to just watch porn.. (i'm not here to insult you; i'd rather be sleeping now, but this is sad)

2. Learn what fashion is; and pick an image/identity/style that is congruent (look it up) to your personality.. Open up some magazines and get ideas.. (oh, that shirt looks nice with those jeans; that hat looks cool; those things he has on his neck/fingers/wrists/arms look hot, etc).. DON'T overlook a certain look because you feel "oh, I can't pull that off".. look at them with the mindset of "wow, that really looks good, that is congruent with who I am and my inner-style"

3. Find your inner-style & identity.. make a list of 3 positive features about yourself (not physical!) why?.. what are 3 goals you have for tomorrow? next week? next month? next year? 5 years from now? 10 years from now? Look at them.. are you happy with them? If no, go back and re-edit.. If yes, this is you.. get comfortable with "you"..

4. Go shopping and buy yourself your new look.. Shirt(s), Pants, Shoes, belts, rings, bracelets, watches, necklaces, glasses, hats, etc.. Get a haircut; nothing long! something bold; ask for texture.. don't use gel; use hair-clay.. get a tweezer and remove any loose hair in the middle of your eye-brows, and from your nose/ears.. get mints and always have your mouth clean and smelling fresh.. get a confident-manly cologne (Scorpio, Aqua de Gio by Armani, DG, Hugo Boss, or John Varvatos), take care of your skin; only during the morning (not twice a day!) take a shower everyday! shave/buzz the forest-of-the-south! (even along the hills and north pole!).. DEODORANT! use it! before you go to sleep each night; use vaseline or chapstick on your lips; and during the day whenever they feel dry-ish..

5. Explore your hobbies & interests to further build your indentity and understanding of who YOU are.. make a list, and a journal, remember some interesting stories (they'll come in handy)

6. This is your first week task; when you're ready to undergo your transformation and truly begin.. (this will take 7 days to complete)

- Your goal for this week is to talk to strangers; people you don't know; (anyone, women, men, old, young, anyone counts) YOU have to "initiate" a conversation.. and the response doesn't matter; you can get a 1-60 minute conversation response, a slap in the face, an angry grin.. it doesn't matter.. that still counts as you "initiating" a conversation with a complete stranger..

Day 1: (3) strangers
Day 2: (4) strangers
Day 3: (5) strangers
Day 4: (6) strangers
Day 5: (7) strangers
Day 6: (8) strangers
Day 7: (9) strangers

The principle here is to start off small; and take a small step each day.. each step you have to take is smaller each day if you think about it (compare 1/3 vs. 1/8)..

But the point of this goal is to break down self-perceived limitations that act as barriers, walls, and boundries that prevent you and hold you back from normal social interaction.. people have this feeling of "awkwardness" when it comes to talking to strangers.. but this week-1 goal will help you get over that.. that's your first step.. from day-1 all through day-7, you're going to feel your barriers being broken down; you're going to cross over your comfort zone and outside your boundries.. by the end of day-7, you'll feel total freedom from any self-perceived limitations that once held you back from talking to people.. it's very liberating; and these will be some of the most life-changing/exciting/fun days of your life..

(My advice stops here.. this is a transformation process; and there's no point in going on, if you haven't finished with your week-1 task and everything else.. everything must be done in order "i'm talking about weekly tasks".. so until you complete your week-1 task; you're not going to get to the next step.. PLUS! I have to get to sleep, it's 5am.. so i'll wait to hear back from you.. PM me when you complete your week-1 task)..

Best of Luck

[NeoSeminole]

college is the easiest time in your life for scoring pussy; you're surrounded by thousands of horny girls. If you can't get laid in college, then kill yourself now b/c it only gets harder.

[DoesntMatter]

college is the easiest time in your life for scoring pussy; you're surrounded by thousands of horny girls. If you can't get laid in college, then kill yourself now b/c it only gets harder.

Hey O2C you go to Dartmouth right? There are plenty of high gorges here at Cornell- I'll take the leap with you

[DoesntMatter]

college is the easiest time in your life for scoring pussy; you're surrounded by thousands of horny girls. If you can't get laid in college, then kill yourself now b/c it only gets harder.

No no wait a minute, you're wrong Neo. What about the guys going to college now who are going to be strapped with cash in another 7 or 8 years? Then, not only can you afford the finest prostitutes, but say you drive a like a Porsche 911 ... Then you'll probably be in a better spot. And because "the easiest way to get laid is to lose your virginity" (forgot where I read that) once you get laid women will want you more. See, when you need it most you don't get it.

[TheSphinx]

Copy and paste your original post under Craigslist's "casual encounters" section.

I shudder to think of the kinds of women you'll have respond, and recommend two alternatives:

1. Get out more (where there are women).

2. Talk to the women.
(Avoid the ones that are immediately interested in food, though. It's like one of those "driving safaris". They shove their head in the window, drool on your dashboard and even let you pet them, etc., but as soon as the food's gone, they dash off to hit the next Jeep Cherokee).

~Sphinx

[Only-virgins]

e..

The first thing I want you to do is stop masturbating.. STOP! NOW!

Hahaha! OMG! lollerskates! Lollercoaster!. Sorry man, no one is going to stop. If you are not masturbating than you are the minority and by minority I mean the only one on this planet.

[pocket]

if i were you, i'd get out and about a bit more, maybe change something about you "looks wise" and start talking to girls, it doesn't hurt to try or just get drunk and get chatting to random girls

"if you don't ask, you don't get"

[vashti]

How does guy relieve sexual tension??

Blow up dolls
prostitute

(But I don't believe you can't get a date with a real girl. Your technique must need improving.)

[bloodtippedrose]

you dont want to lose your virginity to a hooker..

Parties arent the only way to get in girls pants.

Youre suppose to just have fun and get out alot doing what you like to do becuase then you meet people that like the same. (side note: you wouldnt believe how may hot people walk in and out of laundrymats all day long!)

If youre not attractive then work on it and become attractive. Just becuase youre a nerd does not mean you cant get girls.

Otherwise yeah, porn and lower standards..

[Only-virgins]

Why isn't there a pill for this? Too get rid of this anxiety and tension? We have ten thousand Viagra pills and size enhancement bullshit pills and none that do this? Why?