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    today i lost that sexual tension.is this normal?

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    You can't be hump-crazy horny everyday

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    I've noticed the same with my boyfriend - after three years, I still feel a very strong affection for him. But I'm not getting turned on already every time when lying next to him in bed like I used to Guess you get used to everything...

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    this is normal? phewww
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    Yeah, normal. That crazy lustfulness decreases over time. I mean, it pops up now and then, just less frequently.
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    Also, you're about to make a big step (meet the parents). Be sure you aren't sabotaging anything unconsciously.
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    well i definately don't wana sabotage it!! aand the feeling came back today ..i don't want it to decrease yet..we're still virgins
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    Well, you'll have lots to explore when you have sex. You're also starting to find that love must be maintained, rather than it 'just happening'. Its a normal phase in a relationship.

    Did you know psychologists describe different stages of love:

    Three Stages of Love

    Lust or romantic love is the first stage of love. It's driven by testosterone and estrogen. Mating is the evolutionary purpose of this stage of love; it creates strong physical attraction and sets the stage for emotional attachment. In this stage of relationship, endorphins soak your brain and you're immersed in intense pleasurable sensations. Your lover is perfect, ideal, made for you. In this stage of love you feel exhilarated and even "high" (similar to the feeling you get after you eat really good chocolate or have a great workout). You feel infactuated in this stage of relationship.

    Physical attraction and power struggles make up the second stage of love (the lovesick phase). You may lose your appetite, need less sleep, and daydream about your lover on the bus, during meetings, in the shower. In this stage of love, dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin are racing through your body and brain. You're also trying to shape your lover into your ideal partner – which is where the power struggles come in. In this stage of relationship, you're becoming more realistic, and you two may fight about things like whether or not to buy organic food or listen to country music. The infatuation is wearing off, a strong emotional attachment begins to set in, and feelings of infatuation fade.

    Emotional attachment or unconditional acceptance is the third stage of love. It involves commitment, partnership, and even children (a fear of intimacy prevents many from reaching this stage of love). In this stage of relationship, you're aware of both positive and negative traits in your partner, and you've decided you want to build a life together. Confrontation is most likely to occur in this stage of love (though if you're authentic and honest, it'll also happen in the second stage of love). You and your partner will either work towards a healthy, loving relationship or decide to call it quits.


    The article I pulled this from also has suggestions about how to keep the love alive. Here's the link for those who want, to keep the post short:

    [url]http://psychology.suite101.com/article.cfm/love_love_me_do[/url]
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    3 years, huh? Now is about the time you will be able to begin seeing him as others do, and perhaps you will be more objective if your parents tell you they don't like particular aspects about him. In other words, this is probably just reality setting in. Don't worry, though - your honeymoon period lasted longer than usual.
    Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?

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    you have to stop thinking about me when you're around your bf.

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    illusional the dillusional
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    Quote Originally Posted by Illusional View Post
    you have to stop thinking about me when you're around your bf.

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    If only it were that easy. Pussycat, I think you have to try harder to pretend your boyfriend is actually Raverboy. That should make it easier to keep your interest sharp.
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    c'mon giga.. you don't want her to turn into a super gusher all over her bf. that's my job.

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    Roflmao .. Relax

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