Taking a break?

[keonibaloni]

my girlfriend wants to take a break over summer because im going away for a month. im really worried, because i like her alot. We've been going out for over 6 months, and i spend like almost everyday with her. She tells me all the time that her feelings can sway, from guy to guy, so me being gone for a month and all that free time scares the shit of out of me that i'll lose her. Im soo confused, i know she likes me alot, but the words from her mouth dont reassure me. i know that when i come back i'll still want to be with her, but will she?
She said it herself that breaks dont work, wtf?

[Mish]

Catch her in her own game. Tell her that if she wants a break then you assume that means you are free to date others and you just want to make sure that's okay with her, because there are plenty of opportunities where you are going. If she says it's okay, break up with her completely right away. It's better to end it now than when she cheats on you.

[anachronistic]

I think that Mishanya's idea is really clever. You should definitely pull that off, so that you're the last one laughing. Make sure you wish her luck if you break up with her. And don't go back.

[lesa]

Why on earth would she want to take a break because you will be gone for a month? It sounds like she does not want a relationship. I agree with Mishanya's idea.

[GrkScorp]

We've been going out for over 6 months, and i spend like almost everyday with her.

Mish's input was great.., as long as you deliver it properly.., you should get some useful information..

I just want to say.., that I've been in 2-3 week casual dating relationships where the other person would just not want to stop spending time with eachother.., I don't know where you live.., but in NYC.., you don't waste people's time.., that sh*t could get you killed.., every minute counts.., I had to fake trips just so I could get away from them.., because the honest truth is.., that even if you really really like the other person.., if they're too clingy.., it's very very annoying and irritating.., I was frustrated when i'd get a call every half hours "I missed you".., "I was just thinking about you.., just wanted to see what you were up to".., "what are you doing later?" (we just saw eachother a couple of hours ago!)..

I would say.., "look.., i'm going to Boston with my family for 3 days.. blah blah".., and then i'd lock myself inside the house.., peace of mind.., you have no idea how "relaxing" it was to get away from someone like that for just 3 days.., If I didn't have those 3 days to myself.., I don't think i'd be able to take it.. it's very important to just have time off.., not see eachother constantly.., and i'm not talking about 1 day in between.., no.., i'm talking about seeing eachother maybe once or twice a week at most.., because honestly.., I want to be able to miss the other person.., I want to feel like I want to see them.., that i'm looking ahead to seeing them.., not like i'm dreading our next encounter because it's eating away from the time I have for other things.. (you saw eachother yesterday.., you talked about crap.., now you're going to do the same thing again today why? No reason to.., so give the two of you some space.. or else she's going to come up with something similar to my Boston trips.., "breaks")

Best,

GrkScorp