Originally Posted by
Cleo
when he is awake during the day.. which is very rare, he kisses me once and sometimes that's all he gives me. he just goes to the dining commons to get food or go back to playing those stupid games on his laptop. this has been going on for about 3 months.
Sounds like a life waiting to change.., do realize that you can actually save him.., put his life together.., and pull him out from his miserable and pathetic way of life.., if you want to..
This is what I told my brother.., who also used to play games like it was his job or something..
"Let me ask you something.., what do you think about a family.., sitting in one big room.., and just spending time together.., all watching tv?"
Him: blah blah
"Well.., if you can almost picture this.., in your head.., what it would look like.., to see a family.., you can think of us if it's easier to imagine it.., and as you picture it.., now think about how it would look like.., to look at this family.., from the point of view of the tv.., can you see everyone just looking at you?"
Him: blah blah
"And what are they doing? Are they looking at eachother.., or not? Are they talking to eachother? Are they getting to know eachother better? And.., as you think about that.., I know it's kind of a strange thing to think about.., but can you just imagine this family.., 6 months from now? Just 6 months from now.., from today.., what's changed? In front of this tv.., as they're sitting there.., now do they know anything more about one another? As they sit there watching.., are they growing closer as a family? Do they know who the other members really are? Do they know them well? Do they know them like family? Well.., as you think about that.., try and.., if you can.., think about this family.., 1 year from now (same questions).., 2 years from now (same questions).., 5 years from now (same questions).., 20 years from now (same questions).., and just before they make that cross over.., death.., whatever you call it.., when they look back.., at themselves.., at their life.., what can they say about it? Are they happy with it? Is there anything they wish they would have done that they didn't do? Is it a good feeling they have.., or do they feel that something is almost missing? Think about it.., what do you feel?"
Him: blah blah
"Now.., I want you to think about that.., but take your time.., only as fast or slow as you're ready to.., think about what the little things you do in your life.., and how they could have such a big impact on the grand scale of things.., only this time.., imagine looking at just you.., nobody else.., just just you.., from a 3rd person's point of view.., almost like a game.., and try to picture yourself through a computer monitor.., looking at you.., how you look like through this monitor.., looking at you.., and now.., don't think about all the negatives from being on that computer.., that's not where we're going with this.., don't think about what the point is at the end of the day.., of getting your character at a higher level.., or winning the game.., or any of that.., just imagine.., that instead of doing that.., instead of sitting there.., at any time of day.., and doing all of that.., that you did something else.., just that small change.., to try and imagine and see what impact it could have on your life.., and just think about.., something smaller than 6 months from now.., let's just say.., 1 month from now.., can you think about how your life would be like.., one month from now.., if you would stop playing games.., now.., how different would it be? what would be different about it? what changes would you see most? Can you see yourself having more time to learn new things.., or just more time to enjoy yourself with the friends.., family.., and others that you already love? Or maybe you can't see any of that.., and the only thing you can see.., is at the very least.., your life.., being a little more organized now.., in just one month.., how you're more on top of school and work.., maybe less stressed.., and as if you can almost see your entire future a little more clearly.., now.., that's good.., but what about 6 months from now? (same questions).., 5 years from now? (same questions).., 20 years from now (same questions).., and at that cross over.., when you look back at your life.., and all the things you were able to do.., all the moments you enjoyed.., not just with people.., besides all those times you had with people you loved.., just all the things you learned.., all these things you were able to be.., for yourself.., how happy are you with how much you were able to grow into this person now? Looking back.., do you feel that there were things you actually regret doing or not doing? What are those things? Why do you feel regret for them? Do you think.., that given the chance now.., if you had maybe a couple of extra years.., you could do all those things? Or some of those things? Good.., well.., you're still healthy.., I think you have more than a couple of years ahead of you.."
Him: Blah blah
"Sort of weird.., I know.., but I was just reading up on the mentality of really successful people.., like Steve Jobs.., and how the strongest motivator for him.., was death.., and that he looks at himself in the mirror every morning and asks himself.., if he knew that even the smallest choices he made today.., would affect the rest of his life.., would he still choose to live his life that day.., the same way? And if the answer to that is "no" for too many days in a row.., he knows he has to change something.., Being face-to-face with death.., has made him realize just how valuable life is.., and he said it's ironic people give him credit for the Apple computers and the iPod or iPhone and all that.., because he never bothers with any of it.., every time he looks at them or catches himself playing with any of them.., he asks himself.., how he's using his life.., what he's doing with it.., and if playing with any one of those things.., is more important than spending time with his family.., his loved ones.., or doing the things he really enjoys doing.., or even just growing as a person.., and it might sound simple.., but that's all it really takes.., to keep Apple running.., and growing.."
Best,
GrkScorp
If you can't stop the Wind, then you can't stop the Storm.