hi guys, i have a tough situation need your help. basically, what i need ur guys advice is that 1. whether this guy really likes me and wanna a serious relationship with me or just wanna having fun with me? 2. should i continue date with him right now or stop seeing him again? Here is the story. a little long. Sorry!!
i've been dating with this guys for like 3 months.i think we have strong connection and he said this too. we are like hanging out one or two time per week, having dinner, doing sth together, etc. i think he likes me a lot and takes care of me very well. but we haven't seen each other's friends or family yet.( his family is far away from here and my family is totally in another country) plus, during this 3 months, we are like just dating, talking, hanging out.. never define a relationship thing and never consider each other as a gf/bf. i asked him once when we were on 4th dating about how he define us-he said we were just dating right now. he said he was just enjoying the moment then and didn't think about the relationship thing yet cuz 1. he just got hurt from last relationship and don't want rush into one. 2. he probably cannt stay in current city and will go to another city for graduate school, which means long distance and he didn't believe in that.
so after that i didn't ask him about this thing again. just dating with him although i feel very insecure often. recently, already more than 3 months, i think it's a appropriate time to talk to him about this whole thing, so i talked with him. I said: " what do u think of us- the relationship between u and me right now" he said" it seems that things are getting more serious and i feel really like you, hopefully there is a relationship thing" however, i felt a little different tone when he spoke the " RELATIONSHIP" word--sounds kinda of uncomfortable.. And then I said " but u very likely will go to another city for graduate school and cannt stay here, what's the point we are dating right now? if finally u have to go, it will hurt so much for both of us" And then he was like" yeah, that's true, but it is still uncertain yet and i probably will not go and actually i didn't think about that too much and wanna to enjoy right now" AND, he also said, previously he is kinda of person taking things too seriously which make life kinda of harsh, so right now he wanna not taking things very seriously and don't think too much about future.. OMG... i feel very depressed when he said that..
So, based on the info above, can u guys offer some advice? thank u soooo much!!!