I don't know show trust or not..

[jesusblood]

Hello.. I'm new here and need some advise.. Mind you all if read my post leave some comment or advise to me.. And i hope got a girl advise also..

Ok.. Its start with i know my gf about one year already.. We seem happy, enjoy, laugh all together.. She treat me good and caring me a lot a lot.. And before i couple with my gf.. Actually got a guy that she knew on icq last few year.. That guy try to ask she be her gf many many time.. He tell that he very love her and bla bla bla.. But that guy was sad cause he trying last 3 year but still cant get yet but me by one month can couple with my gf..

After we couple that guy still got contact with my gf everyday even my gf message him or he call me gf.. She say he is his best friend and just treat him like a brother.. Then i think is ok if is her friend.. I don't want to control her to much and if she say friend then i should believe her..

So my nightmare start since my gf go another state study.. And that guy also study with my gf same college.. On the 1st day my gf moving to that college she tell me that she wanna sleep at that guy house that he rent at side of the college.. She say scare alone at the hostel cause her roommate havent move in yet.. I was shock when she telling me like that.. Since she say she scare then i let her just go his house sleep.. She say that she sleep on his bed and that guy sleep on floor only and won't do anything and she is her brother..

So it just start like that.. They keep in touch each other.. Sometime go out eat after study at college, go watch cinema after study, and sleep at his house few times.. And also meet his parent eat together.. Even that most break my heart is thier blog.. My gf have her blog and she got write bout she at college study and now her life.. She say that she was very happy when going out with him and she also got mention him as name as brother but on now she calling him dear.. And that guy calling my gf as baby.. I really don't know what they mean..

Got once i go find my gf and got little quarrel with her because of this.. I ask her that did you still love me or have you got feeling on ur dear? She crying and just say "NO and i wont have feeling on him.. i just treat him as my brother.. And calling him dear just call only and nothing special.. So you not trusting on me.. Den my study for our future is useless? I already strating making a birthday present to you also useless? ( my birth at sept) I got telling his parent that i'm not his gf.. And the final word is she say she really really love me and really really serious on our relationship "

So i just trust her and till now.. Yesterday she go walk some shopping centre and watch hancock with him.. And till now she just text me that she just wake up and need to wash face, go canteen meet and go do assignment with her college student.. But till now i din receive her and text and i calling her but no one answer.. I don't know rather she got lies me that actually yesterday she sleep at his house or actually now she already going out playing with him..

Should i still continue like this letting her doing all thing she want? I know she at there need some joy, meeting friend, hanging out.. She say she doing all this nothing wrong.. But i feel sad of all she doing.. Or i should letting her and trust her?

Please give me some advise or say something if you reading my post.. And if girl forumer please leave some advise.. Thanks

[vashti]

1. It is entirely possible that your girlfriend thinks of this boy as only a friend, while he may be hoping for more.

2. I find it a little odd she isn't a bit more sensitive to your insecurity.

3. Maybe you can try to negotiate some parameters on this friendship (such as no sleepovers). If your girlfriend cares about you and your feelings, she shouldn't object,
so long as what you ask is reasonable.

4. I really think trying to maintain relationships when away at college is a very bad idea, so my best advice is to break things off - not because she is cheating (I don't
know if she is or not), but because I think it can be excessively emotionally taxing.

[jesusblood]

when there is no more trust in a relationship..
wat's the poin of goin on?
wat cause u so mind abt all these tiny thg?
is like i said i come out frm wash room n inside room..
den u ask why did't hear the sound of opening n closing door..
u thinking i lie u?
if so..
why make urself suffer?
jz leave me..
i duno hw to make thg go right..
i jz felt u dun trust me..
trust..
a word..
means alot..
really..
i cant find anythg to make our relationship go on..
if u still like this..
i wan my own privacy..
so as u..
i gv u ur private time doin watever u like..
is distance a matter?
or because of him?
i feel like u checking me..
u knw the feeling when ur gf is checking u frm time to time?
i hate it..
checking is not a way of caring..
caring should not be like this..
jz..
sigh..
if u continue like tis..
i think..
we really should jz end it..
no point of making both of us suffer..
we were so happy at the begining..
why thg change?
time? distance? personality change?
i knw u will read this..
jz tell me wat u think aft u read..
jz wana let u knw my feeling..

[Gribble]

Is English your native tongue?

[lesa]

Sounds like a relationship full of drama and much more drama in the future. Do you want to continue? Do you see a long term healthy future relationship with her?

Why is she 'playing siblings' with a man that doesn't see her as his sister? She is abusing his kindness and yours.

She may be sincere but she sounds very immature and full of potential drama.