Please help.

[Eloro]

OK, so I am sixteen. The girl I like just turned 16 (today actually). She has known that I like her for a while now. See, I used to talk to her a lot, but she showed no signs of liking me. So I gave up and quit talking to her.

I couldn't stand it. So I started talking to her again. I found out that she had a boyfriend. But while we were talking, she said I had changed. She said I was "alive" whatever that means. So, anyway... today I found out that her boyfriend broke up with her. She told me right when it happened in a facebook message.

Now, see I know she knows I like her...

My thought is why would she expressly tell ME (we're not like best friends or anything, although we talk almost every day)? I mean, does this mean she wants me to ask her out again or she wants to give me a chance now?

She says she is out of the dating scene for a while now as "it takes time to heal." But I still can't see why she would want to talk to me about breaking up with him when she has plenty of other friends (female and male, so you can't say she just wanted a male opinion.)

This is the kind of girl that I could see myself falling in love with, and I really just want her to give me a chance. I mean, I've never been in love, so I don't really know... but talking to her, just talking, makes me feel amazingly amazing. We have so much in common, and it kills me! So, I guess my question for you guys is what is she thinking? What does all this mean? And even more importantly how can I get her to give me a chance?

[Cain]

You're 16... don't even talk about falling in love.

Now that that's out of the way, you need to stop over analyzing this. You need to assume that she's telling everyone that they broke up, otherwise you'll think that she likes you and it she doesn't, it's going to hurt you. Just approach her and start flirting... ask her out somewhere. Don't ask her to be your gf... ask her on a date... see what she says.

[Eloro]

Well, almost 17. lol

But yeah I guess I am over analyzing it. I asked her out the first time I started talking to her (february). She said no; I asked waaaay too soon(like 10 days after I started talking to her). But about 2 months ago when we started talking again, she said I'd changed. So I don't know what she'd say now.

We flirted (innocently of course, because I'd never do anything while she was with another guy) when she still had a boyfriend. And her friend got hold of her phone and looked at the text messages and even told me that we were flirting too much. (because she had a boyfriend at the time).

So I guess that is a good thing?

[Cain]

Just take things slow. High school romances are doomed from the start in my opinion.

[Austinn]

yea get what you can from high school relationships, because you should be informed now, they dont go anywhere 99.99% of the time

[Eloro]

My parents met in highschool, and are still together (and happy) now. My dad's parents grew up in the 1920s, and I don't think they went to highschool, but I know they met when my grandfather was 18 and grandmother was 16. Hereditary maybe? lol

[Cain]

My parents met in highschool, and are still together (and happy) now. My dad's parents grew up in the 1920s, and I don't think they went to highschool, but I know they met when my grandfather was 18 and grandmother was 16. Hereditary maybe? lol

I'm not saying it doesn't happen. I'm saying don't count on it. Do you know how many relationships someone goes through when they are in high school? Most people change partners every couple months. The problem with high school romance is maturity and the fact that when high school is over, college is a new barrier because of the possible distance.

[Eloro]

Yeah, I understand. But I'd just like to say that not all of us are like that. Probably most, but there is a minority. Gah, you need to watch the movie "The Notebook" Cain. I know it is a movie, but it's not a far fetched one. Anyway, back to the subject... She went out of town for her birthday, and forgot to bring her phone charger, so I won't be able to talk to her for a few days. But, I see that as a good thing because it will give her a chance to clear her head and think about what she wants. (After all, she was just dumped.) So, I'll update when I talk to her next.

[Cain]

Yeah, I understand. But I'd just like to say that not all of us are like that. Probably most, but there is a minority. Gah, you need to watch the movie "The Notebook" Cain. I know it is a movie, but it's not a far fetched one. Anyway, back to the subject... She went out of town for her birthday, and forgot to bring her phone charger, so I won't be able to talk to her for a few days. But, I see that as a good thing because it will give her a chance to clear her head and think about what she wants. (After all, she was just dumped.) So, I'll update when I talk to her next.

lol, come on now... I can pretty much assure you that there probably won't be a romance in your life like "The Notebook."

You need to be realistic. I'm not telling you not to have a relationship in high school. I'm telling you to avoid the whole "I'm falling in love with her" thing, because you most likely aren't. I honestly think 17 is too young to even fall in love. You need life experience in order to even know what love is, and it's not something you can get in high school romances.