Really need a mans opinion

[Starlight08]

Hi Guys!

My partner of 4 years just split with me because over the last year we have been having allot of rows and been very up and down. Over the 4 years we have spoke every single day without fail but i told him that because were split i dont want to speak to him anymore because its just going to hurt too much...

What can i do to get him back? What would work for you?

Thank you

[Cain]

You broke up with him and told him not to speak to you again... yet you want him back?

If you want to be with him again, just talk to him.

[Starlight08]

No he split with me

[Cain]

No he split with me

Well, then you both need to have a sit down and talk about these problems. If you want to be with him again... try...

[Kekoa]

umm not to say anything to direct or 'violent' but face it factually ....
if he broke up with you that means there was something that stopped him from continuing a relationship with you. all of my ex-girlfriends always tended to ask me when i broke up with them what the reason was and to be honest... u lie most of the times. maybe bcz they did something u dont like or bcz u just didnt feel any love for her

btw if i was your ex boyfriend and u said to me that u dont want to talk to me ever again when i dumped you... id take it as: i ****ing hate you + get lost... but first thing to do i think is calling him up GL

[littlewing]

If there is no chemistry between you these 4 years then why fool yourself?

[Tashi]

I don't think you should try either. Unless it is because you really DO love him, you shouldn't. You will only hurt yourself in the end. But if you are really desperate, try luring him with sex. See his reaktion. If he refuses your offer, chances are he actually likes you more than it may seem, or he is gay. (unless he already found someone else).

If he chooses to go along with the offer, he most likely care crap about you. I know a friend of mine who was together with this girl for 3 years. They had sex like, every time they had the chance. And in the end, they both realized they had the same intention in mind. To have sex. That was the sole purpose of that relationship. If you don't mind that kind of relationship, it may be fine with you, but i doubt such a relationship would last longer than a couple of years.

Becomings friends is another idea. Talking to him, trying to get close to him again. You may have your chance again some day, if he grows to like you again.

Those are just ideas, not saying they are fool-proof or anything.

[Mish]

My partner of 4 years just split with me because over the last year we have been having allot of rows and been very up and down.

Every person has boundaries and it's possible that one of these issues you were having crossed one of his.

So, what issues were you having?

[n2u4reelguy]

let's understand this? you have been talking daily for 4-years and out of the clear blue the relationship is over, honestly? 4-year relationships don't end overnight and that means one of the two of you, or both aren't being honest about you expectations in this relationship; maybe it's time the 2-of you really hammered out what's really going on between you; a good relationship requires nourishing; have you 2-worked together to do that? Sounds like it time assuming there's something to salvage here.
good luck!