Extremely complicated

[PHDS]

This one is very complicated, or maybe it's just too simple.

Earlier this year I had a relationship with a woman (Let's call her K). K is 28, I am 20. She's in the military, and in april she had to be transferred to a school out of state until later this year. We agreed that we should stay together, and wait for each other.

I met another woman (we'll call her S). She's 30. We get along very well.

One night I got a call from K saying that she decided that she won't continue dating me after she returns. I am crushed.

S wants to have a relationship. I kind of do too, but I'm still hung up over K so much that it's difficult. But it's been over a month since K dumped me, and it shouldn't hurt this much still, should it? Also, the age difference kind of gets to me...I'd rather date someone my own age.

I really need help. PLEASE.

[Aegis]

There's some saying goes like "one in the hand is better than two in the bush" It's really your call, but if S isn't right for you...and that is a pretty big age gap...perhaps ride it out 'til you or her can find better people for each other? Of course, assuming it doesn't happen simultaneously, one's gonna get hurt.

[misombra]

eh, neither of them would last very long anyway.

you're much too young for them.

i am 30 and i consider people who are 20 to be kids.