Should I try contacting her one last time or just leave it?

[striker08]

I am working on No Contact. I will explain my situation. I met a great girl and then I got deployed overseas. A death in my family brought me back here to the states, that I am still trying to get over. Anyways during the same week I found out about the death in my family, a girl I really liked and myself, got into an argument and she basically told me to only contact her from now on via email.

She then went on vacation for about 3 weeks. I did send her an email letting her know I was coming home and about the death in my family. I heard nothing back from her. Then she deleted me off her Myspace. I later sent her a letter of apology via snail mail, which the letter did not mention any feelings for her, it just said I took responsibility for my actions and I listed out what I did to her and I also told her that I know forgiveness is something that has to be earned and does not happen overnight and if she never forgave me, then that was ok, just know that I was here for her if she needed me to be.

That letter received no response from her either. Neither did a small bunch of flowers I had delivered to her.

I am just exhausted emotionally over the death in my family, losing the friend that I had feelings for, and the fact that I am about to move back overseas in a week and a half. I was wondering if I should try to contact her again or anything, I hate leaving things the way they are.

Any advice would be helpful.

[Cain]

You already have a thread open that's been responded to that you aren't answering.

We want to know what you did to piss the friend off.

[striker08]

You already have a thread open that's been responded to that you aren't answering.

We want to know what you did to piss the friend off.

I just responded to that one, but anyways, my friend felt that everything about our relationship was too much and I said some things that I said in order to protect my children, I had a custody battle going on at the time. To top it off I come from a well to do family that has expectations so I think she also felt she was not good enough at times. I know she was under pressure.

The last thing she said to me was no one was to contact her that was associated with me and I could respond to her personal email account.

I had a death in my family a few weeks ago, that has still left me reeling and I contacted her about it, to just get some moral support and once I did that, she took me off her facebook friend list. I am moving back overseas in a week and a half and I hate leaving things the way they are.

I just want her to know that I am sorry, that I valued her friendship and her as a person and I want nothing from her at this point, just to leave things on good terms, but it seems shes not hearing anything I have to say, so either shes still mad or is just finished with me.

[Yacker]

I think you have done all you can. She will respond or she won't. If she doesn't just assume she read your apology and move on.

[Brose]

wow tough deal. Yeah i don't know what else you can do at this point. You came at her from a real tip, youknow, and she just doesnt want to have anything to do with you. Perhaps there is a way? but I don't know it. Gluck to you. Just keep trying and maybe it will sink in for her.

[Cain]

I recommend to stop trying. There might have been a chance for reconciliation in the past but your constant attempts have probably pushed her away for good. Accept it and move on. Maybe in the future, years from now, she'll be ready to be your friend again.

[ryanrigney22]

I am working on No Contact. I will explain my situation. I met a great girl and then I got deployed overseas. A death in my family brought me back here to the states, that I am still trying to get over. Anyways during the same week I found out about the death in my family, a girl I really liked and myself, got into an argument and she basically told me to only contact her from now on via email.

She then went on vacation for about 3 weeks. I did send her an email letting her know I was coming home and about the death in my family. I heard nothing back from her. Then she deleted me off her Myspace. I later sent her a letter of apology via snail mail, which the letter did not mention any feelings for her, it just said I took responsibility for my actions and I listed out what I did to her and I also told her that I know forgiveness is something that has to be earned and does not happen overnight and if she never forgave me, then that was ok, just know that I was here for her if she needed me to be.

That letter received no response from her either. Neither did a small bunch of flowers I had delivered to her.

I am just exhausted emotionally over the death in my family, losing the friend that I had feelings for, and the fact that I am about to move back overseas in a week and a half. I was wondering if I should try to contact her again or anything, I hate leaving things the way they are.

Any advice would be helpful.

how long did you go with no contact? It sounds like you may have contacted her too soon...