Hello...
I've been in a 2 year relationship that ended last week. In the beginning, when he told me he was interested in me, he had a live in girlfriend. He broke it off with her and a few weeks after, he started seeing me. It went on for a couple of months and than one day, out of the blue, he told me that he's getting back with his (supposedly)ex-girlfriend. I was devastated... He said that he still wanted me to be a part of his life. Time went on, we were still in each others lives - via email and sometimes he would come see me. I told him what we're doing is not right, but he said that he doesn't want to loose me and that he still loved me. He kept saying he doesn't want to hurt her or me.
When he finally ended his relationship with his gf (again) he said he wanted to be alone and figure things out. We continued to email and he would still come see me whenever HE wanted to. When I wanted to see him, he started making excuses.
A month ago, he started becoming very distant. I asked him if there was someone else, he said there was a girl who's interesed in him, but the only problem is that she;s "young" - 28, and he's 42 and I'm in my mid 30's. The details he shared was unnecessary. He said that he's confused. He said he can see both of us in his life and that he still loves me and enumerated the reasons why.
Just a week back, when I asked him to come by and talk instead of emailing all the time, he started to beat around the bush, said he didn't mind seeing me, but as "friends and nothing more". I asked to be direct with me - I asked him if he was seeing someone else. He said he has been seeing someone else and that he's "making it work"... It was a double slap in the face.. I was numb. And now the nubness has turned into saddness.. I was truly in love with this person. But why would he say he loves me? He has cheated before on his ex-wife. He's a highly educated person that comes from a good family. How do men like this get away with it..? How is he able to find love again? Don't they have to face the consequences..? I know I am...