For a man to love a woman who isn't 24 years old and a blonde beauty?
Honestly... the three relationships I've had in my life have all ended with them dumping me. I've heard the solution is to be more forceful, more assertive, and then get more respect... but....isn't that kind of nagging someone into loving?
Now I'm 46, no kids, cute... but so lonely. I just have no faith in men anymore. I'd love to have a special someone, but I just feel it will introduce more pain to my life.
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30-08-08, 11:13 AM #1
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30-08-08, 11:35 AM #2
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I don't know what your issues are, but I can tell you that my mom is severely overweight and has a very strong personality (she kind of looks and acts like the Walt Disney character "Ursula" from the Little Mermaid), and she is on husband number 4. The most recent marriage happened when she was in her late 50s.
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30-08-08, 11:47 AM #3
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no... not possible at all
Originally Posted by Thubanstar
I don't know what you're talking about.Honestly... the three relationships I've had in my life have all ended with them dumping me. I've heard the solution is to be more forceful, more assertive, and then get more respect... but....isn't that kind of nagging someone into loving?
What exactly is your problem in relationships?
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30-08-08, 12:22 PM #4
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OP, chances are there is something wrong with you. Most guys your age want to settle down with a decent woman. So I don't understand why they are leaving you for a 24 yr old girl unless you're not telling us something. Maybe the men you are dating are out of your league?
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30-08-08, 12:51 PM #5
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If they were out of her league, why would they have dated her in the first place?
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30-08-08, 01:07 PM #6
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to use her for whatever reason: companionship, sex, etc. Then they dump her for a better model.
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30-08-08, 03:08 PM #7
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wrong theory
Originally Posted by NeoSeminole
Sigh,
They are not "leaving me" for a 24 year old. I just say that hypothetically because pretty young things seem to get the best emotions from men.
I did not "date" two of these people, I lived with one for four years and was married to one for 13. I'm just tired of giving my all to someone and having them take it for granted.
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30-08-08, 03:17 PM #8
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You should know by now that the men your age who are still interested in 24 year olds are emotionally and psychologically immature. Why would you grieve not having one of them? I'd thank the 24 year olds for weeding them out for you.
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Thubanstar, so your attitude towards men is based on 3 guys you were in a relationship with?
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to be brutally honest, because they're pretty and young. Originally Posted by Thubanstar
Men who are, as shh! said, psychologically immature, who aren't that serious about relationships and who want to screw around will usually go for the pretty young things - I'm afraid that's the way we biologically are.
But a man who's after more, who wants something steady and a life companion, children... that's what you want, isn't it? You say you're cute, i believe you. Maybe you're also an amazing person, I'll assume you are. Maybe your problem isn't 'pretty young things' but something else, maybe about your attitude? Are you the exact opposite of assertive? Are you too needy? Give me your own judgment.
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30-08-08, 10:13 PM #11
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not exactly
Nooo, it's based on observations of, oh, so many men. It just seems like no matter what you do, it's not enough because most men seem to just want the young hot suff in the beer commercial, not the old, "been-there-done-that" woman they already have who tries to please her man and ends up alone anyway. Originally Posted by NeoSeminole
Do you all think the guys I've been with are the exceptions, and creeps (and yes, I agree, I could be more assertive, but I'm not needy) or is this the norm for men, and women should brace themselves to be alone after a certain age?
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30-08-08, 11:19 PM #12
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For you younger males, yes it IS harder for women to find suitable mates when they pass 40, regardless of how fantastic they are. Most men this age are married, and most of those who aren't already taken are single for a reason.
Thubanstar, it's got to be very hard not to be discouraged, but your disappointment in men must have some impact on how they are viewing you, and since there are so many available females (of all ages), men will probably just move on to someone who is "easier" to charm. I do think that women who enjoy being single are more likely to attract people (male and female). How full is the rest of your life?
Also, I know it's probably a matter of the grass being greener, but I can tell you for sure that although I am married to a "great catch" (and have been for many years), there is no way I'd get married again if he passed away. Sure, you GET some things when you are married/attached to someone, but you give up a lot, too.
