Does he still love me??

[floyd_89]

Hello!! I am veryy confused and i don't know what to do anymore...I went out with my ex boyfriend for one year and a half...and six months ago we broke up. He started seeing someone new about three months ago but she lives in the UK while both me and him live in California. I am also kind of seeing someone but i would rather be with my ex....He went to the UK for two months and apparently he fell in love with her. I saw him after six months a couple of weeks ago and we slept together a couple of times for a weekend until i stopped it because my new partner was coming back from his vacation. We had both agreed that it was just a one time thing and that it didnt mean anything. He actually said that he didnt want it to get confusing and for feelings to come back.
I've noticed that he gets nervous around me and tenses up every time someone mentions my new boyfriend's name.
I wonder if it means something?? Does he still love me? Or was it just sex and thats it??

[kyleargyle]

First of all, if you truly do still love your ex, you probably shouldn't be with this new guy. It's not fair to him, and it's not fair to your exes new squeeze either.

[gHEXjt]

There's no way for us to know how he feels. Basically, being that we are men, we will not turn down sex. To some people it means more than others. When I have sex with a girl I feel like I'm making some sort of emotional connection, typically. But if it's just a one timer, than it's just sex. Now, if I was him, I would've done you. It's easy to accept free sex from an ex that is obviously still in love with you, it's comfortable, and if it's anywhere near decent you'll do it.

I would say that since he's willing to be part of a relationship over such a long distance, this girl in the UK must have him pretty good. Not good enough for him not to stick it to you, but good enough for him to make a verbal commitment.

The more pressing issue is the fact that both of you are cheaters. I'm not passing moral judgment because that is a mistake I've made in the past, though I always broke up with the SO immediately following because if you're not willing to be faithful to someone, you shouldn't be with them. Can you imagine how much it hurt would your current BF should he find out about this. It will break his heart. It's bad enough that you cheat once, but you slept with your ex multiple times. You can't even control yourself.

Short answer to your question is that your ex-bf most likely does not love you anymore. Otherwise he wouldn't say things about not making things confusing. You were an easy lay for him, straight and simple. Ex's that still have feelings for you are always easy targets, as many of us have taken advantage of that at some point, which is truly cruel because it leads the other person on, just like you are being led on now. Additionally, he seems uncomfortable at mention of your current BF because he may still have some light feelings for you, but more mainly because it makes it harder for him to justify ****ing you to himself when he knows you have a BF, so he likes to pretend in his mind that you don't.

[elfen31]

I don't think it was just sex, but I do believe you need to discuss how you feel with him and ask him how he truly feels about you. Why did you break up if you don't mind me asking?

[misombra]

he just wanted sex.

[Only-virgins]

You do know that is cheating on your new boyfriend right?

[Cain]

She doesn't care.

The only reason she stopped ****ing him was because her new bf was coming back from vacation.

Personally, I don't think you deserve your new bf and I think you should tell him you're a lying, cheating whore.