Lust Missing?

[Elessa]

I have been dating my partner for nearly 3 years and a few weeks ago i discovered a flirtatious email he had sent to a classmate.

Since then we have patched things up, but i am still having a hard time being sexually intimate with him, even though i want to be.

Any advice or theories? How can i help fix this situation?

[agatha]

What finds you hard being sexually intimate with him?
Just because of the flirtatious email you found?

If you really want to have sex with your bf then forget what you have discovered. Just assume that his a good guy, that he doesn't
know how to flirt.

or

Tell him that you found an email from him containing flirtatious message and ask him why did he do that?