Just Needing To Know...

[AnxietyQueen]

Im wondering if the feelings I'm having about a particular situation in my relationship are justified? I'll try to keep it short.

Basically, my boyfriend of a year went on a Contiki Tour (a tour for groups of 18-35 yr olds) with his best mate to the US.

In Las Vegas they do this 'joke' thing where the tour leaders get the 2 most out-going people to get 'married'. This was my boyfriend and another girl, whos a lesbian.

However, he and this girl get along famously, and if it wasnt for the fact that she doesnt swing his way, she'd be his perfect woman. They're now very close and shes flying down from her home town to be here for his birthday...

What I want to know is, is it ok that i feel strangely uncomfortable with all of this? I know theres effectively no way anything could happen between them, but I feel so odd about it all! I've tried to tell myself she's just like any of his other mates but because shes a girl I think I feel threatened or something. Please help.

[LAtoJapan]

Of course it is perfectly natural to feel a little jealousy since she is in fact a woman. There is nothing wrong though with the platonic relationship that they are having. It is actually good that she is coming out for his birthday so that you can check her out for yourself. I know that women on a whole are good at reading other women. You really don't much about her right but the fact that she is a lesbian? This of course is all coming from the lips of your boyfriend but you really don't know about her. I typically introduce my female friends to my girlfriend so that she gets to know them and know that she won't have to worry if I am around them.

[shh!]

People get jealous over their sgnificant other's same-gender friends all the time, so I don't think your jealousy is unusual. However, you've really got to keep it to yourself or you risk looking like a lunatic. Try to be very warm and outgoing when you meet this girl. You may end up liking her, too.

[starbuck]

Agree with all of the above. Plus, she's a lesbian. That would be enough to put my fears at rest. None of the lesbians I know secretly want men.

I think you should put aside your fears and make a good effort to get along with her. As shh said, she could end up being good friends to both of you.

[Charlie Boy II]

All lesbians want the cock.

[starbuck]

All lesbians want the cock.

Ok, maybe the "lesbians" in porn movies do. You're right, I should have clarified

[Charlie Boy II]

No starbuck. Even the the butch ones want the cock, except they want one attached to the fleshy mound between their legs. They're seething there isn't one there. Lesbians looks silly. They can't f-ck. Who do they think they are kidding?

[shh!]

I think they might want the cock, but just not everything else that goes with it.

[AnxietyQueen]

Haha. Cheers everyone. I honestly do hope I get along with her, she seems like a great girl.

And I dont think that she'd suddenly decide she wants him, more that he might fall for her. But I'm just going to hope that doesnt happen. And I definately am going to keep all these thoughts to myself! lol.

[IndiReloaded]

Maybe she'll fall for YOU. Flirt with her, make your BF jealous.