I Need Any And All Advice On This..

[Watshisface]

Okay...So here's the story...This girl and I had been
dating for three years and we were big time in-love.
She would always say I didn't do enough of the sweet
stuff anymore, like look into her eyes or hold her hand, which was true, and I didn't do the stuff because I guess I didn't think it was a big deal, you know?
So she got a job and everything...and everything
was fine until one night she calls me and tells me
she hasn't been 'truthful' with me...She tells me
she's been hanging out with her co-workers every
often behind my back (one was a guy, one was a girl)
and that she was beginning to have feelings for
the guy...So she tells me it's over and also says
that:

"I'm young, I've only been in one serious
relationship and I want to see if someone else
can make me happier. I'll always love and
care about you..."

And then that begins the break-up. I'm sad
and lost and try to pick up the pieces. I try
to call her a couple times...No answer. I email...
No reply....Nothing. It happened last Saturday...
and it's now Wednesday...I call her every so often
and email still, but if she picks up, all I get is a
yell to stop calling. She says she's trying not
to think about me right now.

I'm still in-love, I'm still missing her, and I'm
still knowing I need to be with her. Nothing
or nobody can make me happier than her.
What we had was magical...Really...It was
my true love...I've had other girls, other
break-ups, but this one, I know, is wrong...

So I need advice here...My plan now is to
just move on, try not to think about her
(no matter how hard that is) and give her
some time to herself, you know? She said
she wanted to see if she would be happier,
so maybe I should back off for a while
and let her 'spread her wings'...(Does this
sound like a good plan to anybody out there?)

So today is the first day I stopped calling her...
I didn't email either...I've cut off all communication
and I'm just going to let her be for a while...

I am wondering when do I come back out and
let know I'm still here...Just maybe call out
of the blue for a friendly conversation? When
would be the appropriate time...I was thinking
a week...but that might be too soon...but if
I wait like a month...It might start to get serious
with the other guy...you know?

So I need advice. What should I do? Should
I cancel my current plan? Should I make a new
plan? Should I just move on?

I can honestly say I've never loved anyone
or anything more than I loved that girl...
and I would do anything to get her back...
Please help me...I'm so lost right now...

[Mish]

She tells me
she's been hanging out with her co-workers every
often behind my back (one was a guy, one was a girl)
and that she was beginning to have feelings for
the guy...So she tells me it's over

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. It's a hypocritical way of her to break up with you. Ussually people who are honest and respectful to others break up because they see problems in a relationship, not because they find someone else of interest. Something to keep in the back of your mind as a mirror into her character.

I'm still in-love, I'm still missing her, and I'm
still knowing I need to be with her. Nothing
or nobody can make me happier than her.

That's a flawed and dangerous way of thinking that you will have to work hard and change. Nothing or nobody but you can make you happy. Everything you do in life is a byproduct of that happiness. Nothing else controls it, but you.

So I need advice here...My plan now is to
just move on, try not to think about her
(no matter how hard that is) and give her
some time to herself

That's a very good plan and I hope you will stick by it

I am wondering when do I come back out and
let know I'm still here...

Never

If she ever gets interested in you again she will find you. Otherwise your mission is to go out and have fun and completely forget about her existance. These are your priorities.

[idoubtit]

Learning to give up is very hard.

But once you learn this, you would never be sad anymore.

Go look for some distractions, you are a guy, be strong, and you will be fine.

[Watshisface]

You don't think there's any chance for us anymore?

[HUNT3R]

Sorry to say this, but don't get your hopes up. It's very unlikely. It'll be hard but the best thing would be to move on. If she contacts you, then you guys could try to work things out. Otherwise, move on. Trust me on this, she's not the only one who can make you happy. Also, you're responsible for your own happiness, not someone else.

[Only-virgins]

This is why marriage is stupid. Everyone gets bored of everyone at some point or another.

[lastwish]

Mishanya has awesome advice in this. When a girl tells you that she wants to explore her other options then let her. In this situation where there is no problem in the relationship except that she has other interests, you have to let her come to you and not the other way around.

[RyanCameronJr]

Maybe you should just chalk it up to young love.