wot the???????????

[confused08]

Hi, my Ex and I broke up 9 month's ago now. We had a massive row, no denying it. We have a gorgeous daughter between us, and I love both of them very much.
The trouble is, my EX say's that she no longer has feeling's for me. but over these month's we've had many dinner's out and I've stayed over etc.
When I ask her about these time's she doesn't say anything, I.E Why she wanted me to stay, I've offered to sleep on the couch but she say's no.??????
Also at times she is nasty to me, say's hurtful thing's, then ask's if I'm ok???
I know she say's she has no feeling's, but why the constant contact all these month's, all the meeting's, and day's out we've had have been her choice and idea's.And bcos I love her so much still I can't say no, which is probably my undoing.
I can't move on, although she say's that she has, which for some reason or other doesn't ring true with me.
I believe,or actually know that she hurt's as I do about our breakup, and that she want's me there, not alway's when there's a problem, I just don't understand why she won't go the full throw with me????
I have done alot for her, given her my full support as if we were still together, fixed her car, stopped her getting evicted, sorted a personal prob she had and couldn't sort herself. It's really doing me in emotionally and physically. I know there is plenty of women out ther that would love the support and love that I can give, but I'm just stuck on her, don't want to give up totally just incase, hence my screen name, CONFUSED, totally.

[ecojeanne]

i reckon you are her back up or comfort when she decides she needs it. For your sake i would advise not staying over or spending any extra time with her other than when you go to see your daughter. You will then truly know if she is just using you until she finds someone better

sorry