Please Help Me Out To Win Him Back

[Tillyk]

I was in a serious relationship with a guy and he was serious too and I know for a fact that he loved me a lot also for last 4 years ( during this time also we had ups and downs too but I think its normal ) and just out of no reason he broke off with me 3 weeks a go when I told him that he needs to talk to my mum about the commitment and then he tried ti find fault suddenly sad I have lied to him and pretended nicely ( TO BE HONEST I HAVEN DONE ANYTHING LIKE THAT TO HIM ) and said he needs his own time to think hard about this relationship and to give him a week and right after a week he said he needs to be happy and he is not happy and to respect his wishes and this affair is over but I want to get him back to my life he kept on saying

" replace all your dreams with someone and I will never come back and get this to your head this is over and also he said I never made things easier to him too"

but before anything like this happened he was not communicating properly even though I asked him when I notices whether he is upset over anything he never said anything to me .I tried my best to talk to him when I noticed that he is changing , getting angry with me for no reason , scolding me, and tried to find fault even though he knew he was wrong too when ever I talk etc but he never said anything to me I am confused and his birthday is on next Saturday I love him a lot more than I did to anyone lease tell me how can I get back with him I am his first love and for me he is 3rd BUT I NEVER LOVES ANYONE LIKE I DO FOR HIM TO BE HONEST HERE please tell me how can I get back with him please ...

[shh!]

It sounds like he is not interested in getting back together, my friend. His feelings about this relationship are important too, you know.

This is the thing: you have already spent 4 years with a guy who isn't interested in continuing a relationship. It is better to hear this NOW, rather than in another few years, possibly after you have babies.

This is your first heartbreak, and it is usually the worst. Do something nice for yourself and be patient. It will take you some time to get over this, but you WILL. Don't do anything in the interim that will cause yourself embarrassment later, like begging and crying or calling him constantly... you need to cut all contact with him immediately. It will hurt, but you will heal faster that way.