Friend trouble

[MavViper]

I have a question. Now I know it depends on the person, but recently I found out that my girlfriend's friend is jealous of me, sometimes gets annoyed when I text my gf, and also seemingly wants me and my girlfriend to break up.

I talked with my girlfriend about it and ya, it's all true that her friend thinks that way. Now my question is, how big of an impact will this have on mine and my gf's relationship? She used to be really close with her friend but not so much anymore. When I was talking to my gf today she was telling me that when her friend would text her wanting to hangout that she was usually with me but if she wasn't, she would say that she would get back to her cause she would have to find out what me and her were doing.

As far as me and my gf goes, she's 18 (senior in HS) and I'm 21. They just had homecoming and my gf and her friend went together since her school has a policy that no one over 20 is allowed in at all. Afterwards they had girls nite. I was pretty bummed that I couldn't go but I ended up going out with a couple of friends. But my gf told me she didn't have that much fun because she was thinking of me most of the time and that she was worrying that I was sitting at home and freaking out. We have our little issues obviously (we've been going out only 4 months) but it's nothing bad or anything.

[TheGreek]

It depends on the girl. If she truly cares about the relationship and wants it to work out, she'll do what she wants to keep it going. If she listens to herself, she'll keep it going.

Now if your girlfriend is the type of girl who listens to what her friends think and practically makes their decisions for them, then it's probably not going to work out. But then again, do you really want a relationship with a girl who can't make her own decisions?

On a side note: Funny you mentioned homecoming, I had a similar situation with my date and her best friend. Although we were not going out with each other.

[MavViper]

She's not the type that would let her friends make her decisions for her. Especially since apparently her friend has felt like this for a little while now (I'm talking close to a month). So ya, I'd say it's obvious that my gf is making her own decisions.

I plan on talking to my gf's friend tomorrow face to face and ask her about it. Since I don't want her to keep on feeling like this cause then I think it's going to cause my gf and her friend to drift apart and not be friends anymore.

[bluesummer]

honestly, she needs to talk to her friend about this herself. If her friend was any REAL kind of friend, she wouldn't be jealous of you and try to break you up. If I had a friend like that, I'd ditch her....I don't need that kind of psycho-drama out of one of my girlfriends.

At the same time, keep mindful that you are not occupying ALL of your gf's time.....she needs to spend time with her friends too. It's healthier for your relationship. You have to build and maintain other relationships outside of the one you share.

[MavViper]

well my gf's friend has resorted to talking crap behind my back. Yesterday I was over at my gf's house and her friend kept on txting stuff to my gf like "I bet he doesn't go to the gym even though he says he does" "he doesn't look like the type to go to the gym" and "idk he doesn't look in shape". Me and my gf were reading it as her friend was sending the text msgs. My gf is pissed at her friend though. Her friend makes all kinds of excuses when I ask to talk to her. But ya her friend isn't going to affect mine and my gf's relationship