Originally Posted by
element_one
Hey everyone. If this is too long plz tell me so I can make a “short version”.
Before I actually start to tell my story, I think I am safe to say that this one is perhaps one of the less common stories around.
See, my story goes way back in time, even before high school (I’m 22 right now). As far as I remember, I had always been fat. No, more than fatty, perhaps obese. On my worst condition, I actually weighted almost 290 pounds. And I’m 6 feet tall.
So, needless to say, I didn’t use to care about girls, dating, or anything like that for a long period of time. I, also, used to hang out with the (no offense intended) “nerd” type of friends. Basically, I used to be a fat nerd, no doubt.
However, like three years ago (when I was 19), after being tired of people making fun of me on a daily basis, I just knew that I had to change something. I didn’t want to live like that forever.
So, near Christmas 2006, I decided to quit eating sh*t, start to work out, and, basically, completely change my lifestyle.
Long story short, almost one year and a half since that (during which a lot of things happened, like –not afraid to tell this, since I am being completely honest- hours of hours of crying, a lot of appointments with a psychologist, etc), today I am a COMPLETELY different man.
I am weighting 180 pounds, (yeah, lost more than 100 pounds), developed a quite decent body with workout (was kinda easy, since I already had the mass), and overall I am much, MUCH better looking (not trying to sound annoying, but it’s the truth).
HOWEVER, and this is where the whole problem start: My looks changed, but my personality didn’t. See, I’m still afraid of talking to girls, as a matter of fact, I have never, EVER had a girlfriend (however, I have had casual sex). And, as you could expect, I still am embarrassed when I am with “surfer-looking” type of guys (with whom I have started to hang out recently), so I just barely talk when I am with them.
So, now that I can actually have a girlfriend, I just don’t know what to do. I mean, I am 22 years old and still single since the day I was born. I know it’s shameful but considering the context in which I used to live, I don’t think it sounds that insane.
I don’t know how to talk to a girl, don’t even know what to do when I am alone with a girl (I’ve had a couple of chances of actually “nailing” with a girl, but over-thinking what to do or say, ended on her leaving, bored).
So, I’m here, alone, NEEDING a girlfriend (I have even started to DREAM with me having a girlfriend, and I don’t even know the girl I am dreaming of!).
That’s why I’m here. Talking to you guys, without embarrassment or nothing, just telling you what I feel, begging for your comments, suggestions, or anything you could possible tell me.
Extremely appreciated,
David.