Argh...

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

So I was thinking about Fras and Giga telling me not to have sex with my ex to relieve sexual frustration, and honestly I had thought about still doing it. But I knew deep in my heart it would hurt me in the end specifically because I am still not over him. So I decided to look up his name and see if i could find some dirt on him to turn me off. Well, I guess I got lucky.

I typed his name on Google, and saw that he had a facebook now. Which is nothing really to me, it was kinda bothering me to see that he had so much girls as his friends, but its just me being jealous but I didnt get mad seeing as we arent together so who am I to get mad. Well, he's a football fan and he's always on football forums. There's this one in particular that I actually knew of that I went on to. Well, I went through all his posts couple of em had me like damn he actually said that but they were when we werent together. The one that cut the cake for me was also done when we werent together. Only difference is it's about him having sex. He said he had belonged getting some pussy that week, and this post had been written before we had planned to have any sex. So I was like yea............................................... ........................

I'm really pissed to be honest, but I asked for it. And honestly, I'm glad I found it. It saved me from giving it up again to him and he doesnt even deserve it. So aside from being mad that he did it, I'm also glad that he did it so I dont even want to have sex with him again. I needed that slap in the face back to reality.

Thank.
God.

Anyway, as for finding a new person, there is someone I know. But we're just friends. He's a great person and all but I dont see myself in a relationship with him. I've mentioned having sex to him and he told me he wouldnt do it cuz he doesnt think I'm ready and he doesnt want to make me feel like he's only after me for that. My gut is telling me to not do it with a new person and if I really want to have sex it should be with someone I have a past with. I'm just not ready to have a new sex partner. The only past guy I am comfortable with having sex with and even rebuilding a relationship with does not even live here. We had stopped dating over a misunderstanding. But we continued a friendship and he had moved away.

I dunno, my hornyness(yes I said hornyness) has gotten out of hand. I need to relieve this sexual frustration. My only stress right now is family related and just not having a partner to ****, quite frankly. Being single is a great feeling emotionally cuz its less stress over bullshit. But at the same time, I like having one person to go to to relieve my horny level. I'm just confused as hell at this point on what to do. I'm to the point where when i get horny, my stomach starts hurting cuz I know I wont get relief.

So the vibrator isnt working, I'm not ****ing my ex, and I'm not comfortable with having sex with someone new.....any other suggestions?

[IndiReloaded]

Go someplace nice for the weekend. Hotel on the beach? With a spa tub after your little one is in bed.

[Dasein]

Ladie the guy that is your friend sounds like a good guy. Even if you are not interested romantically I think he would be good for you.

As for your um er..situation. I hate to say this but I think most of this forum have gone through dry spells. Especially after break ups. Yes you can be as randy as a goat but you don't always have to indulge that. It can be difficult but I don't think starting a new relationship or rekindling an old one purely for sex is in your best interest at this time.

Btw if your vibrator aint doing it for you I suggest getting a new one because I have never had any issues with mine not cutting it.

[IndiReloaded]

Ha! Change batteries?

[Charlie Boy II]

Want to cyber?

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

Want to cyber?

Anytime ya ready

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

Ladie the guy that is your friend sounds like a good guy. Even if you are not interested romantically I think he would be good for you.

As for your um er..situation. I hate to say this but I think most of this forum have gone through dry spells. Especially after break ups. Yes you can be as randy as a goat but you don't always have to indulge that. It can be difficult but I don't think starting a new relationship or rekindling an old one purely for sex is in your best interest at this time.

Btw if your vibrator aint doing it for you I suggest getting a new one because I have never had any issues with mine not cutting it.

He's a great person, Dasein. I always believed the quote "Once a player always a player" but he has proven me wrong so many times. He's had his share of ****ing around, but he respects me because I'm not like the other girls he's met. He likes that I'm a challenge and that I've got a feisty attitude. But thats what worries me. If I gave it up to him, I would no longer be a challenge. I told him about that and he said it's not about the sex. He had admitted that that was his intentions before he really got to know me. He's not one of those guys to say he's not like the rest, but he actually has the actions. I dont know, I like him as a person, I've liked him as more in the past, but I have this really bad feeling in my gut. I dont know what it is. I'm afraid to take things further. I had already told him I only want to be friends because something in my heart is not allowing me to go any further. Maybe its cuz my heart is still with my ex? Idk. I wish I was over my ex though. I dont think he deserves my heart at all. I've sat back and thought of any bad I've done and how he has treated me was in no way fair. It was so bad, I felt like an enemy to him. Like someone he disliked.

I do like the fact that I am doing something for myself. I do think he is glad that I had chosen to continue my education, at least. I think he's surprised that I'm this dedicated to finishing school.

I dunno mehn, it's sooo confusing right now. But two things I do know is having sex with my ex is going to cause some form of drama, and having sex with a new person will become a regret sooner or later. I guess I just have to try and stick it out then. It's hard as hell, but I'll try

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

Bump dammit!

[starbuck]

I agree with Dasein. Dry spells are pretty normal in life. All of us have them at some point or another. Just remember that along with casual sex comes some measure of risk, be it a physical one or emotional one (diseases, chance of pregnancy, emotional attachment, etc.,). That's why casual sex is totally unappealling to me. The risks outweigh the relief.

I find that when I'm very very busy, it takes my mind off sex or lack thereof. Maybe you can throw yourself into other things besides a guy's bed? Stay strong!!!

[1averagejoe]

Same thing has crossed my mind before so I can't blame you, just stay strong.

I've been going almost a year now...

[boobaa]

I've been looking for an intimate contact for as long as I remember. Now that sucks. Not even sex, just someone to hold hands with.

[vashti]

Sorry, but I have absolutely nothing to add other than I agree with Starbuck and Dasein. Just keep in mind that you are the boss of your vagina, and not the other way around.

[Dasein]

He's a great person, Dasein. I always believed the quote "Once a player always a player" but he has proven me wrong so many times. He's had his share of ****ing around, but he respects me because I'm not like the other girls he's met. He likes that I'm a challenge and that I've got a feisty attitude. But thats what worries me. If I gave it up to him, I would no longer be a challenge. I told him about that and he said it's not about the sex. He had admitted that that was his intentions before he really got to know me. He's not one of those guys to say he's not like the rest, but he actually has the actions. I dont know, I like him as a person, I've liked him as more in the past, but I have this really bad feeling in my gut. I dont know what it is. I'm afraid to take things further. I had already told him I only want to be friends because something in my heart is not allowing me to go any further. Maybe its cuz my heart is still with my ex? Idk. I wish I was over my ex though. I dont think he deserves my heart at all. I've sat back and thought of any bad I've done and how he has treated me was in no way fair. It was so bad, I felt like an enemy to him. Like someone he disliked.

I do like the fact that I am doing something for myself. I do think he is glad that I had chosen to continue my education, at least. I think he's surprised that I'm this dedicated to finishing school.

I dunno mehn, it's sooo confusing right now. But two things I do know is having sex with my ex is going to cause some form of drama, and having sex with a new person will become a regret sooner or later. I guess I just have to try and stick it out then. It's hard as hell, but I'll try

Ladie you really need to trust your instincts. If something feels wrong then it usually is.

It is fantastic that you are continuing with your education. I think education and your little one should be your primary focus. Do you know what you would like to do as a career? Sometimes working toward a goal can get your mind shifted to other things.

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

Thanks for all the responses.

Dasein as a matter of fact I do. I want to become a fashion designer and am currently looking into attending the Savannah Art school in Georgia. A secondary thing for me is cosmetology school seeing as I love to do hair(I aint got money to be spending in a hairdresser every week so i do my own damn hair lol)

I've got goals set and I'm happy to have the people that believe in me in my life. It makes me feel real good. I just talked to this guy today and he said he knew this lawyer who was hiring an assistant, but it sounds like it wont happen cuz they require a driver, which I am not. I'm still searching though. I havent felt so good about myself in a while. I feel my self esteem building every day and when I go to school. It feels great. I'm glad I'm no longer just sitting at home being stressed over bullshit like my ex and our problems. I feel good single, and I feel accomplished. Only thing bothering me is my parents and their drinking and just not having a specific someone that I am comfortable with having sex with. I'm already feeling at ease about not getting any. I've already gone almost a full year without it before so I should be able to stick it out.

A new relationship is way out of the question right now. I think i really want to be single for at least a year or so. This freedom feels pretty damn good. Flirting meaninglessly(Is that a word? LOL), no worries about a boyfriend not liking something I'm doing...it feels pretty damn good.

I feel very successful and today a friend of mine told me how proud he was of me. I felt so good I was skipping to class LOL. Wish me luck!

[Zilla80]

I'll **** you.