First few times disappointing

[and7020]

So my girlfriend is 19 and has had one other partner, back when she was really young, other than me. I am 21 and was a virgin so its safe to say we are both rather inexperienced with sex. I don't know if I should be disappointed or proud but the three times we have had sex I barely feel anything and never came while she came once or even multiple times.

We've tried missionary, cowgirl, and a "hugging" type position. Every once and a while where we get a good rhythm going I can feel somewhat extreme pleasure but we usually lose the rhythm or we need a breather and I'm back to feeling nothing. The night usually ends when we get tired out, her vagina becomes to sensitive for sex after she orgasms, or time constraints, she has a 2 a.m. curfew which can sometimes really hinder our fun.

Do I have to get use to the feeling of a vagina after years of masturbation? Is it like this for everybody's first few times?

[doppelgaenger]

Chill the **** out. You are both relatively new to sex.

[Junket]

If you're getting anxious about sex, it's not going to be enjoyable.

"Lose rhythm"?

How do you lose rhythm?

Get her on her back, or on all 4's and shove your cock in there as fast and hard as you can.

[1averagejoe]

My first bj...it took her 45minutes because I was soo nervous.

After that the time went down a lot...lol

[Only-virgins]

My first time was ok. Don't sweat it if yours wasn't.

[ecojeanne]

[ame]http://www.metacafe.com/watch/1809702/realistic_hollywood_sex_scene/[/ame]

EDIT: sorry that scene must not be there anymore...

[ecojeanne]

found it:

[url]http://www.collegehumor.com/video:1820859[/url]

[Hellfire]

It takes a little while to get into the swing of things. What you're going through isn't unusual. Worrying about it will only make it more difficult for you to come. Just take it easy, practice makes perfect!

[IndiReloaded]

Sex is a skill & gets better with practice. Read books & the internet & try things out. Don't get too neurotic about it, you're probably fine.

On birth control, I hope?

[ny2468]

It may take a few times to get the swing of things. She may have to hone her BJ skills, a really good one can make me cum in minutes, a bad one can take a long time, especially if she pauses, or doesn't use her hand at the same time.

Are you using a condom in the vagina? That can make things feel different. How long does it normally take to cum when masturbating?

Does she look similar to what you masturbate to? Sometimes masturbatory conditioning comes into play.

[Anglo]

I suspect that you are circumcised and if most of the sensitive part has been cut off you probably wont have much feeling but you will learn to cum.

[Junket]

I suspect that you are circumcised and if most of the sensitive part has been cut off you probably wont have much feeling but you will learn to cum.

That's the most idiotic thing I've ever heard.

You can not be circumcised if you think that.

[Gribble]

Lots of men are circumcised and they enjoy sex.

You're nervous and unskilled. It's natural that your first few times won't be all that hot. Don't worry about it. Just keep at it. You'll improve and your nerves will settle down. Sex will become a blast.

[vashti]

This thread is pretty old, but I am surprised no one pointed out that it is extremely unlikely a girl is having multiple orgasms with someone so inexperienced.