Please help me

[LoveGoddess240]

i am really confused as to what to do and what he really wants or feels about so any advice or answers would be great. I am 27 years old and have been going through a divorce for the past 8 mths and it should be final anyday now. About 3 1/2 mths ago I met a guy and we started to hang out and one thing led to another and we got really close and serious. We spent alot of time together and had alot of fun. I have 2 kids from previous marriage and he has one from previous marriage, his divorce was final in June of 2008. When I wouldn't have my kids then I was with him and would stay at his house and vice versa. We got to the point where we said I love you and he made me a key to his place and I was introduced to his parents and everything. Our kids all got along too and everything was going really good. Well I found out I was pregnant in mid October and then ended up losing the baby not too soon after we had found out. He broke up with me a week after the baby incident and said "I just don't think it's going to work out" he said he's got too much going on and too much on his mind and just isn't ready for a serious relationship. I was in shock and still am. I don't understand why he did this. It was 2 weeks before I saw him again and now we talk/text almost everyday but he says he just wants to be friends for now because he's not ready for anything else. He won't say he loves me anymore or that he misses me either. I went over to his house 2 weeks ago and we talked for like an hour or so and then he grabbed my head and pulled it towards his and then we ended up kissing and then of course made love afterwords he said it wasn't a mistake but probably shouldn't have happened because he said he doesn't want to hurt me and lead me on because he's just not ready. Well I just don't get men especially him. I am not sure if he's scared and really does love me or what changed his mind. I am still waiting for my divorce to be final and I think that may have something to do with all of this too and probably the baby but I am so confused now. I went to a psychic and she said that she feels he loves me and that he's just scared of getting hurt again. He was married and his wife left him for another man. My husband had an affair and that was why I left. We have both been through the same thing except I was with mine for alot longer than he was. Is there any hope for me and this man or should I move on. We talk or text everyday/every other day and it's pretty much "how are you, what are you doing". Please help me understand why he got so serious with me and then changed his mind and now is more distant. I should also mention that he would buy me little things all the time for no reason. My favorite chocolates he got me after i lost the baby. When I said "man watermelon would be good right now" he went out to the store and bought a huge watermelon. He always did alot for me and then something changed. please help me understand what is going on with this man. thanks so much

[ecojeanne]

3 1/2 months and you introduced the kids to him and his kid to yours, thats a bit soon in my book and a bit irresponsible on both of your parts- however that doesn't help right now i know. i think asking a psychic for help won't tell you the things going on in his head. you need to ask him out straight if he was scared - i personally think that he did get overwhelmed with the pregnancy and the whole seriousness of your relationship so soon. gosh it was only 3 1/2 months...coz it got so serious and involved the kids; i say ask him out straight does he see a longterm future with you. i'm guessing his answer is no and then you move on but my advice is don't expose your kids to a bf so soon. i'm sorry for your situation and i'm sorry for your loss of the baby.