So confused! Please help

[mrpoe]

Hi everyone,

I should probably start with some background...

About 3 years ago I got into a a long distance relationship. We officially went out for about 3 montths until she cheated on me. However we still kept real close and so it still felt like we were going out. And so every time she hooked up some guy I'd be crushed. She had no consideration for my feelings and just kept doing it despte how I felt. So start of this year she stopped taking to me and we've been over since.

I'm now with someone else who is absolutely amazing and would quite honestly do almost anything for me. However the problem is I live in a small city and have always wanted to move away to the bg city that my ex is in. And for some reason I find myself wantng to the her another chance. And for the life of me I don't know why.

So I either stay with this amazing girl even I don't know if she's the one. Or I take my chances and move like I've always wanted to and possibly give my ex another shot dependng on where she stands right now.

Then another part of me just wants to he single again and sort things out myself.

So that's my essay. Any advice would really be apprciated. Thanks all

[ecojeanne]

gosh, your thoughts are a bit all over the place. you have always wanted to move to the big city; well that urge will probably never go away. i think you should move and get it out of your system. you can always come back whenever you feel like it. it may be upsetting for the girl you're with but its just one of those things you will always regret not doing, if you dont.

as for your ex...you need to stop thinking about her. she's a cheater and in my book cheaters are nasty and selfish and they never ultimately change. also i'm a believer that 'you never go back' it's never the same, i live by this philosophy for everything.

[heartsTRUTH]

I agree w/ eco...i think if you really wanna live in a big city you should do it...get it out of your system. as for your ex, forget about it...just move to the big city and enjoy the life of being single. if she cheated on you once, she'll cheat on you again don't waist your time...the new girl on the other hand, I'm assuming she doesn't want to move to the big city w/ you? if not, she's one of many, there are plenty of girls who want to cater to a man. It's a matter of instinct for a woman to want to care for a man, just be patient and have fun until that girl comes along....

[mrpoe]

thanks for the advice so far! Yeah I agree about having to move. I've just finished university and been working for a few months now and a whole bunch of opportunities have opened up for me.

As for my current gf...like I said she's an amazing gf.. But for some reason I don't feel that she's the one. Does does make me crazy? I can't even explain why it's just a feeling.

As for my ex.. I feel that we never got closure or proper chance to go out.

You're right. My mind really is all over the place. There's souch I want to do and love is making it so complicated.