My messed up mate

[gonks go beat]

I have a very good friend, who i have known for about 8 years. She is a lovely person and we're really close but when it comes to relationships she is a real screw-up.

When I first met her she had a long-term boyfriend and a stable if dull relationship. They then split up and she declared she was a lesbian and immediately started a relationship with a woman who had a girlfriend and really messed her around for about a year. They split up and became a virtual recluse for a while. Then she met another woman who also had a girlfriend. This relationship had a rocky start but the woman did leave her girlfriend for my friend. They had a relationship for 3 years but it was very up and down and they split up once, reconciled briefly and then split up again permanently ( and unpleasantly) a couple of months ago.

My friend has now decided she's straight again! And is seeing a married man she met through work. He says he's in love with her and she claims not to have any expectations of him. I think she's just heading for yet another disaster. What should I do, if anything? I feel upset about seeing her foul up yet again but I don't know if she will listen to anything I might say.

[AndrewJanus]

Yikes! Be careful sir...even if she is that good of a friend...

You have to be mindful when you play barbies with real people!

Whats in it for you? Are you looking to date her?

Sometimes you have to let people make mistakes in order for them to fully understand...

[Gigabitch]

Are you in a stable relationship? If so, I'd watch out for her, since it seems that her pattern is to be a serial homewrecker. Male or female, it appears to be more about stealing someone away from someone else.

Chick needs therapy. Also, a chastity belt. She is using her vagina irresponsibly.

[sarah_rsl]

I have a very good friend, who i have known for about 8 years. She is a lovely person and we're really close but when it comes to relationships she is a real screw-up.

When I first met her she had a long-term boyfriend and a stable if dull relationship. They then split up and she declared she was a lesbian and immediately started a relationship with a woman who had a girlfriend and really messed her around for about a year. They split up and became a virtual recluse for a while. Then she met another woman who also had a girlfriend. This relationship had a rocky start but the woman did leave her girlfriend for my friend. They had a relationship for 3 years but it was very up and down and they split up once, reconciled briefly and then split up again permanently ( and unpleasantly) a couple of months ago.

My friend has now decided she's straight again! And is seeing a married man she met through work. He says he's in love with her and she claims not to have any expectations of him. I think she's just heading for yet another disaster. What should I do, if anything? I feel upset about seeing her foul up yet again but I don't know if she will listen to anything I might say.

So basically what you're say is she went from one long term relationship to another long term relationship albeit a same sex one. Big deal so far, People are naturally bi sexual its just men repress it more.

Now she's seeing a married man and that has all sorts of moral issues although giving all the blame to the woman as the homewrecker seems a bit old school. She seems to be going in with her eyes open though.So if she asks for your opinion you should tell her what you think otherwise say nothing. If you're unable to say nothing then you should break all contact with her.

From what you've described of her I doubt that she's going to jump you so I reckon you should be safe on that account.

[Lite]

Sometimes all you can do is cut those people loose from your life and let them go.

[Gigabitch]

Now she's seeing a married man and that has all sorts of moral issues although giving all the blame to the woman as the homewrecker seems a bit old school.

Sarah, everyone she's ever gotten involved with was already in a relationship. She's like Helena Bonham Carter.