I met a girl on World of Warcraft

[Manske]

I just found this website a few minutes ago, and I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this, but whatever.

Basically, while I was leveling a new character on the MMORPG World of Warcraft, I met this person in a new guild. She so happens to be a 15 year old beautiful girl that loves to play the game like I do. Now before you think I'm a pedo, I'm 17. We exchanged myspaces within hours of talking to each other, and now we talk for at least 6 hours a day, either in text or on a program called Ventrilo, where we actually talk. It's getting to the point now where I play this game only to talk to her and play with her. I hate when I have to get off, but can't wait until I can get on the next day, just so I can hear her beautiful voice again. When I'm lying in bed, all I can think about is imagining meeting her in real life and loving her like I would do if she were here. The thing I love most of all is that I really can be myself when I talk to her. I tend to be abrasive and push away a lot of people by my personality, but it doesn't affect her at all, in fact I think she likes it.

Problems:
1. I live in Indiana, and she lives in Nevada.
2. How do I know if she feels the same way?
3. If she does feel the same way towards me, do I tell her online or wait to meet her in real life?

I probably left some information out, so feel free to ask me anything. halp me plzzz.

[Cain]

This is ridiculous. This has got to be at least the 10th mention of people trying to forum a relationship through WoW.

I'm going to ban my kids from playing any online games at this rate.

Don't waste your youth on an online relationship. Find someone local. You won't even be able to meet her for quite a while.

[Spring Haze]

Does it even matter if she feels the same way? You live incredibly far away. She'd have to have her parents permission in order for you two to meet. Even with the slim chance of a meeting occurring, then what? You go back to your lives hundreds of miles apart.

[Manske]

See, the problem of finding someone local is that I never go out. Every relationship where one partner plays an MMO and one does not ends poorly. I need someone that also plays the game, and how the hell do I find that around here? And yes, the physical aspect of the relationship would not be there for at least another year. She is skipping her senior year of high scool, so that's at least another year after this school year is over before she can really do anything.

Thanks for the quick replies btw, that was really quick lol.

[Cain]

See, the problem of finding someone local is that I never go out. Every relationship where one partner plays an MMO and one does not ends poorly. I need someone that also plays the game, and how the hell do I find that around here? And yes, the physical aspect of the relationship would not be there for at least another year. She is skipping her senior year of high scool, so that's at least another year after this school year is over before she can really do anything.

Thanks for the quick replies btw, that was really quick lol.

Then you need to start going out. This game could just be a phase for her. She might get a life and not play it so often.

And BS on your comment about MMOs. I play WoW, but I still have a life. My girl doesn't play WoW. My ex didn't either. The only way that a relationship will fail because you play an MMO is because you choose the MMO over her. If you do that, you're just stupid.

You really should start going out and having fun with friends and stop trying to meet people through a game.

[Junket]

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[Manske]

Well I guess the first problem would be that I don't have many friends around here in the first place. The ones I do play video games all the time. And what do teens my age do for fun? Go to parties and get wasted? Doesn't sound like fun to me... I hate that society has established this "normal" teenage life for us, and if we don't follow we're considered outcasts or weird. What the hell does "going out" even mean? Btw, I probably shouldn't have said "everyone," but I have heard countless stories of relationships ending because of MMOs.

[Cain]

Well I guess the first problem would be that I don't have many friends around here in the first place. The ones I do play video games all the time. And what do teens my age do for fun? Go to parties and get wasted? Doesn't sound like fun to me... I hate that society has established this "normal" teenage life for us, and if we don't follow we're considered outcasts or weird. What the hell does "going out" even mean? Btw, I probably shouldn't have said "everyone," but I have heard countless stories of relationships ending because of MMOs.

Yeah, they end because one person neglects the other.

Going out doesn't mean you have to get wasted. Go to the movies, go bowling, play mini golf... just hang out and socialize.

[Manske]

Well since we seem to have gotten off topic, it's not like I'm just going to stop talking to her in game. I don't think telling me that the distance is I shouldn't pursue her. In fact, that's one of the beauties of an MMO. They provide an environment for relationships that happen to be long distance to flourish imo. So is there any HELPFUL advice out there?

[Cain]

Well since we seem to have gotten off topic, it's not like I'm just going to stop talking to her in game. I don't think telling me that the distance is I shouldn't pursue her. In fact, that's one of the beauties of an MMO. They provide an environment for relationships that happen to be long distance to flourish imo. So is there any HELPFUL advice out there?

No offense, but no relationship will flourish without having ever met the person and without physical contact more than once a year.

I stand by my statement that though you may not have outgrown this game, unless she's entirely unattractive, she eventually will.

[Lite]

Offer to show her your collection of Drizzt Do'Urden books. Maybe you could give her a glass dragon.

[Lite]

Well since we seem to have gotten off topic, it's not like I'm just going to stop talking to her in game. I don't think telling me that the distance is I shouldn't pursue her. In fact, that's one of the beauties of an MMO. They provide an environment for relationships that happen to be long distance to flourish imo. So is there any HELPFUL advice out there?

Yes. Stop daydreaming and form a real relationship with a real person that you can actually touch. That IS the helpful advice. Do you really think you're the only person to have done this? And I have some great friends from MMO's that I've actually met in person. You know what, every single one of them has some sort of mental disorder that they're ignoring in their lives because they choose to socialize via the internet rather than in person.

[Gribble]

The only helpful advice anyone can give you has all ready been provided. Delete WoW from your computer. Go out. Live. Enjoy your youth. Don't become another fat, unintelligent virgin who can't tear himself away from a money-making scheme in the guise of a virtual world.

[Mish]

So is there any HELPFUL advice out there?

Okay, since no one is going to give the real HELPFUL! alternative and advice, here is one

Go out and find a job and start saving up for a plane ticket. Wait one year until she is 16. Ask your parents to accompany you on your travel after explaining to them what it will be for. Then fly to Nevada with them for your first date. Fly back home when it's over and start saving up for the plane ticket for your second date. Once this is done, ask one of your parents to accompany you back to Nevada for the second date, repeat until the two of you are in a relationship.

Once you are in the relationship, ask your parents to relocate to Nevada where all of you will be starting a new life happily together.

Good luck

[capturedsoul]

Online relationships don't work at all. Once the excitement of exhausted every topic with someone has gone, you'll eventually be craving physical contact. What's the point of discussing your favourite foods/movies etc if you can't share it with them?

Plus, waiting around for months before you can see each other next will be very hard. How can a real relationship be established?

Save yourself the anguish and don't pursue a relationship.