unanswered questions that hurt...

[JasonVoorhees]

You probably heard my recent posts about me and my girlfriend breakup and going back togother and the bad phase she's still going true.

but she realized at least she can't stay without me and me too. so im not afraid alot of being dumped again right now... but my brain is exploding with unanswered questions...

during the breakup , she went out with her friends which alot of them are boys, went out as in, a group of friend going out not dates, and once she went out in a car with a person for 30mins only (i have proof of this because ihad logs on the pc from which time she disconnected and left from the net to which time she got back) again she just went out because she didnt have friends this time to go out with and was borred alot so he came home for her by car.

now, she promised me she didnt do anything with anyone neither kissed in the 4-7days we where broken apart, and , myself i believe her but my brain is still full of doubts and images and unanswered questions if she didn't really do anything.

is there a way to be sure if she didn't do anything? i mean if she did lie to me and she knows how much i hate lies , would she be able to live with it and keep it inside? she's not that strong person and is not able to hold emotions, but she is acting normal other then times when the confusions in her brain hits her for a day or 2 again, but the rest she's all fine like the old 3years we've been together.

any answers apriciated i want to get these question answered and if she did lie i want to know. thanks alot in advanced. peace.

[Lite]

The only way to be sure she didn't do anything is to stalk her. Either you trust her or you don't. She's worthy of your trust, or she isn't. But that's something you need to understand for yourself and why you feel the way you do.

You also need to be able to say, "Look, I understand you said nothing happened, but I'm feeling insecure about this and am going to need time to straighten my emotions out."

It's only fair.

[JasonVoorhees]

yes dude, i did talk to her, and she sweared she didn't do anything even tough she said the guy she went out for a ride with tried to invite her to his home and was saying things to her to make her fall, she said al the truth to me i think, but i want to know if she really did say the truth, well personally i do believe her and i have faith in her but my brain continous to say "but how can you be sure she's not lying?!"

[Lite]

You have NO WAY of knowing outside of faith and trust. You have no way of following her back in time to check. You either trust her, or you don't. And while you say you trust her, you don't. So, you don't trust her and that's really your problem to resolve in whatever manner you do. We're not detectives here.

[JasonVoorhees]

yes light i understand what you're saying , and thanks for the help. but my real question was, if someone lied to someone they really love, would they be able to live with it ?

[Lite]

yes light i understand what you're saying , and thanks for the help. but my real question was, if someone lied to someone they really love, would they be able to live with it ?

If they were that desperate to keep the person. Yes, unequivocally so. They will hide it, bury it, and never speak of it again until they need to hurt you.

[lost1976]

If you are trying to be together and heal from the past then its best not to dwell on it. I am afraid that you will not be able to salvage this relationship because you seem to have trust issues and it could well be because she hasnt shown herself to be trustworthy.

BUT if you do really love her then you need to forgive and forget with an open heart and start afresh.

And even if she had sex with a dozen guys, remember you guys were broken up at that time.