Marriage passe?

[Vodka]

What do you think? I've noticed that most of the ladies on dating sites do not mention marriage. Why? Are they not interested? Or are they afraid they will scare off men?

[lesa]

You can assume many women eventually want marriage (although some do not). There is no need to tell strangers something like that. You're not going to marry any person, are you? You are not going to marry the first person to agree, would you?

If you want someone who is looking for a long-term or serious relationship, which may eventually lead to marriage, then eharmony is the place to go. Also look for those that may say they are interesting in something serious rather than casual or just dating around.

[Gribble]

Common sense. I would never date a woman if, upon meeting her for the first time, she prattled on about how much she wanted to get married. You don't share that with people you don't know. Not potential love interests, anyway.

[ecojeanne]

are you expecting it to be an agenda for women to want to get married? i know there are a lot of crazy women out there that think marriage is a sign of success and therefore make it a goal in life and also it doesn’t matter with whom, sad gits. i see marriage as a trap, i don't want any man to have that over me, i can't see myself ever getting married unless i have kids.

yes i would reckon it would scare men off if it was mentioned on their profile.

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

Isnt the dating site phase a tad bit too early to mention wanting to get married? I've been told before that if it's talked about too early it scares guys off, and some guys arent even looking for marriage, but possibly a long term relationship with the potential of turning into more. I dont want to meet someone online and they start talking about marriage and kids and a future together.....I will most likely block and delete them and tell them to stay away from me. But hey thats just me.

[IndiReloaded]

I dunno. Mbe its more the context in how its mentioned. I could see having a 'might consider marriage in future' as a pretty good triage for the ones who aren't as longterm minded.

[lesa]

^^^ I agree. If he is not looking for a serious relationship then he will not reply. That's probably why eharmony works so well. If I ever want a serious relationship, I know where to go.

[bluesummer]

I met my fiance on the 'relationship' section of lavalife (as opposed to the 'dating' or 'intimate encounters'). I think that pretty much predetermined that we were looking for something serious. When you're looking for something serious, it usually means marriage in the long run. Not always, but usually.

I think women don't like to mention it right off because

A) They don't want to come off desperate or as easy prey
B) They don't want to scare guys off
C) They're not sure that marriage in is the cards unless they meet the person that could possibly change their mind about it.