is it true...............

[Susan]

me and my boyfriend just split up and its left me completely broken hearted. i just want him back soooo much. friends and family keep telling me that the best thing to do is try and move on and show him that i can move on without him. They say that when he sees that im happy without him that he will realise what he has done and what he is missing and we will regret it. do u think this is true?

[Mish]

Sometimes. But mostly breaks up end in break up. For you to be happy and have a good time is to make it easier for you to move on. It may also make it easier for him to want to get back with you, being clingy and not letting him go would fail.

[lesa]

Yes that is very possible. It also depends on why you broke up. Are you guys truly compatible, etc?

[Cain]

I've noticed that a lot of time when a relationship ends, it's never really the same again. Even when two people get back together, the relationship usually ends for the same reason as before.

But then again, people are quick to end relationships nowadays without actually trying to work through issues. Disposable I guess.

[swargolet]

Id say right now your best thing is to continue with your life and be as happy as possible and dont let it show that it is effecting you. This could benefit in 2 ways. 1. It might make him realize that he really does miss you and will want to come back, or 2. if he doesnt want to come back to you then this is the first step forward in getting over a breakup so you are already on your way.

You just need to remember that the chances of getting back together are slim. I'm sorry to say that but it is true, and if you force it then it will just end again for the same reason.

[ThatGuy]

My suggestion would be to take what you have learned from the relationship and move on. Try to figure out what you want from this life, who you want to be and who you want to be with.

[d^_^b]

I will tell you from experience that it has worked at least a little before. My wife divorced me last month and ran off with some other guy. Once she saw that I wasn't going to go after her and try to win her back she started trying to contact me and I would say hello and that we could still be friends but that's all. I say that you get one shot. If you try it again you'll have the same problems.