before sex

**devildark** · 18-02-09, 01:26 AM

Right, I have a problem that has been going on for years and I have tried various ways of communicating the problem to my wife, but the problem still continues.

What happens is that just before sex there always seems to be a moment when my wife finds a way to mock and/or humiliate me.

It is the timing that really gets to me. Though some people have the problem of their spouse not engaging in sex, this is not my problem.

Let me explain. Recently, my wife offered to give me fellatio after which we'd have sex. However, just as we were preparing to go forward with our plan, she saw that my fly was already down. At this point I was already quite looking forward to the evening, so all I did was stutter a bit when she told me that she discovered my open fly (not in a sensual manner, but in a "oh, you forgot to zip your fly again" manner). When I was lost for words in anticipation of our night together, she made a retarded voice and mocked my stammering because frankly I had no response to her criticism that I had left my fly open by accident.

I overlooked this and chalked it up to a misunderstanding, but soon after when she was about to go down on me, I made an "ooooo" noise, and she looked up at me, made the retarded voice again and mocked the sound I just made, which immediately and effectively ruined the moment, you know that moment where you surrender yourself to the upcoming pleasure and love that you are about to feel.

Immediately after making the retarded voice, she started giving me oral sex, but all I could think about was the shame I felt in having been mocked.

Okay, I know I might not be expressing this very well, and I am not perfect, but the point is that on numerous occasions I have had to overcome my anger and shame in order to just move forward, i.e. maintain an erection as opposed to confronting her over a humiliation that frankly makes it hard to perform. But I overcome my feelings, think happy thoughts and try to enjoy the sex as much as possible because like all humans I am a sexual creature and know that if I confronted her over this, we would have a fight, and we certainly would not have sex.

I know this because I have tried to confront her and all that happens is that she responds with the following: "why don't you write down all the things I do wrong and then give me the list." This statement is of course said with biting sarcasm, which further frustrates me as it is not my intention to tell her all of her faults, only that I don't like to be mocked. In short, when I say to her that something she has done makes me feel shame, she takes it personally and lets me know that she feels I have wronged her for bringing up a grievance.

Please help. This is the first time I have ever reached out to others in a public forum over my marriage issues.

Thanks.

**Cain** · 18-02-09, 01:32 AM

lol

Sorry, but I had a hard time reading that without laughing. Your wife is a bitch. The next time she mocks you... punch her in the face and say "don't mock me, bitch!"

**carl1222** · 18-02-09, 01:32 AM

Does her mocking attitude only happen in connection with sex? Or does she mock (or use sarcasm) on you at other times? How is the rest of your relationship?

Carl.

**carl1222** · 18-02-09, 01:50 AM

Originally Posted by Cain

lol

Sorry, but I had a hard time reading that without laughing. Your wife is a bitch. The next time she mocks you... punch her in the face and say "don't mock me, bitch!"

I would skip the punch in the face, but I think the line is perfect! In any event, when she does that, put your d**k back in your pants and leave the room. Don't forget to slam the door.

Carl.

Better yet ... next time you are having sex, and at the point where she's getting into it, stop and say (in a retarded voice) "OMG, OMG, OMG, duhhhhh."

ps. Apologies to the developmentally challenged from all of us.

**Aeradalia** · 18-02-09, 02:20 AM

Next time she mocks you in the retarded voice.. let her suck on your dick then stop, tuck it away... then walk away. When she asks why you're leaving... tell her the 'retard' doesn't know how to operate heavy machinery.

Better yet... during sex, when she's just about to orgasm.. pull out and walk away... with a biting, sarcastic remark about HER performance... (particularly the 'retarded' look on her face).

**Cain** · 18-02-09, 03:01 AM

Better yet, let her suck on your dick and then ram it so far into the back of her throat that she starts to gag.

THEN say "don't mock me, bitch!"

**Gigabitch** · 18-02-09, 03:13 AM

Do you suspect it turns her on to be cruel? Or possibly, she finds sex humiliating and wants to humiliate you as well?

I suggest going the other direction than confrontation and calling her a bitch (which she TOTALLY is. What a ****ing bitch). I think you should be more civilized than she is. Lead by example. I suggest you withhold the cock from her. Don't give her any until she can treat you like a human being.

I'm intrigued by this rotten behavior and I'd like some more details, if you don't mind. How long have you been married? Was she a bitch like this before you married her? Does she seem to have a problem with sex in general or just with you?

**Indignant** · 18-02-09, 03:23 AM

i am wondering if his story is exaggerated and he doesn't have any sense of humor.

**Aeradalia** · 18-02-09, 03:29 AM

Originally Posted by Indignant

i am wondering if his story is exaggerated and he doesn't have any sense of humor.

There are women out there like this... seems odd to automatically assume exaggeration or lack of sense of humor...

You know, there will be times when it ISN'T the guy's fault...

**Indignant** · 18-02-09, 03:37 AM

Originally Posted by devildark

What happens is that just before sex there always seems to be a moment when my wife finds a way to mock and/or humiliate me.

Recently, my wife offered to give me fellatio after which we'd have sex. When I was lost for words in anticipation of our night together, she made a retarded voice and mocked my stammering because frankly I had no response to her criticism that I had left my fly open by accident.

Immediately after making the retarded voice, she started giving me oral sex, but all I could think about was the shame I felt in having been mocked.

Okay, I know I might not be expressing this very well, and I am not perfect, but the point is that on numerous occasions I have had to overcome my anger and shame in order to just move forward, i.e. maintain an erection as opposed to confronting her over a humiliation that frankly makes it hard to perform.

it seems to me that there are a lot of details which we are now aware of. like what kind of man is he? does she really see him as a .....mentally slow person? is he one on fact? she has no issues in satisfying him sexually though. i'd love to see pictures, images do tell a lot about people.

Originally Posted by Aeradalia

There are women out there like this... seems odd to automatically assume exaggeration or lack of sense of humor...

You know, there will be times when it ISN'T the guy's fault...

you are right, but still, we only know one side of the story. i'd like to hear hers as well.

**Indignant** · 18-02-09, 03:40 AM

he is 29 years old, i wonder how old his girl is.

besides that i think this is a troll.

why does he have the link in his sig?

**Indignant** · 18-02-09, 03:45 AM

or how about this for a first time?

[url]http://forum.isitnormal.com/devildark/blog/[/url]

**Indignant** · 18-02-09, 03:46 AM

or now it's a female:

[url]http://vbulletin.thesite.org/member.php?u=33262[/url]

[url]http://community.boredofstudies.org/members/devildark/[/url]

**Aeradalia** · 18-02-09, 03:47 AM

Devildark... I followed the link in your signature... are you gathering information here for someone else?

I agree with Indignant's suspicions... seems odd to have a link in your signature.

Why are you here... really?

Deja vu?

[url]http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php?p=2213614#post2213614[/url]

**Indignant** · 18-02-09, 03:49 AM

why do we even bother with trolls.

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