jacking off!!!

[sinner saint]

OK.... Please someone help me out here...

My boyfriend and i have been dating for about a year now he is 25 and i am 21...it has always been apparent that i have had a higher sex drive than him i would love to have sex with him all the time and he just does not seem as horny as me. So i have come to grips with this fact but i still believe that for a healthy reationship you need to have sex at least 2 or 3 times a week...(although i would like it 4 or 5 times) Any way i have catered to the fact that he told me he thinks that is too much and calls me a sex acholic (as a joke)!!
Well just today i discover on our computer that he has a membership to a porn site and has logged in everynight this week to look at porn and ****ing wack off!!!!! I am very upset and hurt by this because we have only been having sex once a week sometimes even once every two weeks!!!!
What is wrong with this picture...and i dont mean to be concieted but i think i am attractive and i am wondering why he wont sleep with me more....i have even offered in the past to watch a porno with him for kinky sex and he claimed that he didnt like to watch porn!!!....LIES... he waits till i go to bead and jacks off! What should i feel about this because i dont think he finds me attractive anymore...
someone help me shed some light on this situation!!!!

[flipside84]

hey i have the same problem! Not the porn but, the sex. I have an abnormally high sex drive, (not really sure why) & in my last 3 year relationship we were still having sex 4-5 times a week. The guys i've been with before have loved it...but my current bf has stopped me in my tracks...he calls me a nympho & can't understand why i want it so much, & the same thing as u..i'm a reasonably attractive girl, why DOESN'T he want sex every nite like normal guys? I know how it makes u feel like crap! Has he been in a long term relationship before? I finally understand my boyfriend now...it's hard for him to get used to 'couple' sex - more used to picking up girls, rooting them then never talking to them again. He's trying really hard but sometimes it gets to me, as i'm used to guys just loving it whenever we're in bed. You'd think hey! But i think it's not so much about the sex for older guys- the passion & romance, it's just to get off, and that's all. And they feel relaxed & can sleep better. Do u feel comfortable confronting him? If he treats u well every other way then it's a deeper problem within him, not you i find my bf prefers a head job to sex, and actually really enjoys that, so that's something! Good luck mate

[vashti]

Well, it is easier to just beat off I suppose, but it does seem a little bit hostile/selfish to me if he knows you are ready, willing, and eager. Perhaps he enjoys the sexual aspect, but not the intimacy, or maybe he is pissed off about something. I doubt it has anything at all to do with your level of attractiveness.

In any case, you aren't married, If your sex life is unacceptable to you, then NOW is the time to get out, before you are stuck.

[carl1222]

I think you both have the same problem ... your boyfriends are "variety" junkies. Guys are wired by nature to seek many mates. When they get into a committed relationship, most guys curb their natural need to inseminate the civilized world and enjoy the sense of intimacy they can only get with their partners. But some don't.

My advice to spice up your sex life? get 3 wigs ... one brunette, one blonde, one redhead. Get a bunch of outfits too. So one night you can be the sexually repressed brunette librarian who gives herself to him in wild abandon. The next night you can be the slutty redhead who just wants to be pounded.

Seriously though ... red flags for you both ... guys like that are MUCH more likely to cheat if the opportunity arises.

Carl.

[idoubtit]

haha, so funny questions)))))

[Lite]

OK.... Please someone help me out here...

What is wrong with this picture...and i dont mean to be concieted but i think i am attractive and i am wondering why he wont sleep with me more....

Maybe you suck in bed? Sorry, but it might actually be true. Or, he's just too ****ing tired to be bothered with coming up with energy for sex he finds boring, dis interesting, or mediocre.

Some weeks I have sex 5-7 times. Some weeks I have it once. Depends on the week, what I'm doing, how stressed I am. I still masturbate daily during all of this.

Perhaps he's embarrassed to watch porn w/ you?