Ok, I could type pages and pages of what took place this weekend because it was a LOT! Scenario: 3 foreign girls staying at my parents place for a few days before traveling to a special needs camp at Indiana to work for the summer. One of the girls I end up just light conversation at bedtime (midnight) that lasts until 8 A.M.! We didn't sleep at all! To make a long story short, she said that everything we talked about and the feelings back and forth were stronger than anyone else she's ever known. (Negative part: She has a 5 yr bf back home that she's been trying to leave but he keeps nagging her back after multiple breakups. The last time he threatened suicide and she succumed to that. Yes, dumb on her part but she doesn't know what to do. She's 21, he's hit her once in the past, she believes he's cheated on her, he looks at other women and won't kiss or touch her even during sex, and does not allow her to kiss or touch him during sex. Yes, pretty messed up. She's 21 and has been dating him since 16 and he's the only guy she's had sex with.) So obviously there's enough baggage for her to not know what to do. She knows that she's unhappy and feels empty inside and said that I make her feel alive and special and more inside then anyone else (including bf) has made her feel.
There was lots of innuendo on both sides throughout the night while we sat together on the bed but nothing happened. To make a long story short, I KNOW 100% that I could've seduced her that night and she would've given in and proabably felt guilt later. But it didn't feel right to do that to her. She told me she wanted more from me and wanted to kiss me but didn't want to be a cheater and have me see that in her.
Anyway, she's in Indiana now and I know that I WILL be able to see her again and she calls me (only has enough prepaid minutes to call her family or bf, but she calls me instead.) and says her heart is torn and that she can't sleep, she can't eat. She can't stop thinking of me and wanting to be with me and that she knows her bf isn't the one she is supposed to be with. He's not her "life partner". She WANTS more with me, but is afraid it will only be for the summer and i'll never see her again with her Visa running out in Septemeber, and my police career keeping me in Illinois. I told her not to look so far ahead and to try and enjoy what we can now and that if it's meant to be, it will be.
I know I didn't explain everything but there was some HEAVY, HEAVY feelings on both sides. I can't explain it. I've never felt like this about someone before, Even after being in love with my first main gf. She is SERIOUSLY having problems deciding what to do. She KNOWS that I can make her feel better then anything else she's had before. She already feels that and has expressed that. It's her FEAR of this not being able to last, like waking from a dream that has her in turmoil. Like knowing that we could have something wonderful but that it might not last more than a summer. She doesn't want her heart broken over something so good like this.
I sorta feel the same way but I have more faith that if this is meant to be, it will be. My sister and bro in-law were the same. She went to Greece, bumped into him for 2 days. 3 months later they talk on the phone, send letters for a year. Travel back to Greece and he proposed and now they've been married for 3 years happily.
Stranger things have happened. I'm not saying she's my "chosen one", but i'm not afraid to try something if only for a little while. It's not like i've been hurt before. Let me just say that if I never see her again, I've been so happy these past 2 days that it doesn't matter. I felt so good with her and the feelings were unbelievable. It's something that i'm happy to have felt if I never feel it again.