my bf of several years wants his ex back

[pol32x]

My bf and I love each other very much but after many years have come to the conclusion that we cannot fulfill each other's important needs. Something has to give. He told me that he wants to resume his relationship with his ex gf. The reason they broke up no longer exits. He also wants to keep me in his life in an intimate way. I am confused and feel that I need to find another bf. Need feedback.

[Gigabitch]

Really, you're confused? I don't think it's confusing. Shocking, perhaps. Insulting. Somewhere on the scale from annoying to infuriating.

So you're not enough for him and he's decided to, what, supplement? What is it about this situation that looks inviting to you? I don't know if you need a new boyfriend, but I can tell you for sure you don't need the old one.

[alovehangoverr]

Completely ignoring him going back to his ex for a second-- you've stated that you both know that you can't fulfill each others needs, so what is there to be confused about? You break up. Why stay in a relationship where you're not getting what you need?

As for this ex business.. that's laughable. Not only does he want to keep you around [how insulting-- you're not good enough for a relationship with him, but hey you're good enough for a screw] but he wants to switch from one relationship that isn't fulfilling his needs to another that didn't fulfill his needs in the past.

Do yourself a favor and get far away from this guy.

[pol32x]

The problem I have is that the ex gf DID fulfill his needs and he hasn't forgotten that.

[Gigabitch]

Well, get rid of the boyfriend and you get rid of the problem.

[Disillusioned]

If you've determined how many levels he's insulted you on, you can cut your losses or hurt him back.
IMO, he's a weakling looking for a double standard at your emotional expense. You get to be his back up girl. What a %&ick.

[CocoChanel]

Well, get rid of the boyfriend and you get rid of the problem.

Looks like he already got rid of her! LOL!
Okay that's not funny. Sorry.

But hun there is no reason to be confused.
And you're feeling is right. You need another boyfriend.

[bluesummer]

He's got a lot of balls to tell you he doesn't want you as a gf, but still wants you to put out for him. I think that sums up what a dick he is right there.

Don't second guess yourself, just get rid of him.

[misombra]

it's crazy that you actually have to ask what you should do.

[Mish]

I am confused and feel that I need to find another bf. Need feedback.

Why do you need another bf? Just dump him and be single for awhile.

[stbmrs]

I have now read 2 posts from you. One your the girl that's loved but doesn't do the filling and one when you do the filling but aren't loved. So which one are you?

[Cao Pi]

Are you stupid? Just get rid of him.