Well, I'm having another fight with my gf. We're already having a hard time, cos she (desperately) wants to get engaged, as i described in an earlier thread. I'm not ready for this, partly due to her 'mean' behavior.
Anyway, today, she came up with a 'test' again. This happened several times before, she putting me to choose between her and someone else ... Wanting me to unconditionally choose her 'side'... Today she said I should never talk to my best friend again, in other words 'him or me'. After having gone through this several times, I just ignored it, saying I don't play games like that, ofc with her being pissed as reaction ... The point is, that she 'supposedly' doesnt REALLY want me to not see my friend ever again etc .. she just wants me to say it, and feel like she's important to me.
Now I can understand she wants to feel more important ... but to me this just seems showing no respect whatsoever. Surely, if you love someone, you dont put em for impossible choices.. even if its only a test. Like I said, it happened before, when my parents were due to visit me (i live abroad), she made me blow their visit off ... i had to choose between her and my parents basically. Ofc later she claimed I just had to choose her, and everything wouldve been fine. Now call me stupid or not, but i dont feel like playing these mind games, it just seems idiotic and disrespectful to me. I know women tend to 'test', but this seems over the top to me.
Now ofc, she doesnt wanna talk, she wants me to 'give in'. But I've really had it... Dunno what I should do, beg on my knees for her? Lie, that I dont wanna see my friend, betraying him? I would never give up my best friend, he's called best friend for a reason.
Sigh, just another frustration added. My resilience shows now boundaries ....