Help

[solferina]

Hello everyone,
The reason I decided to write here is because I want the guys to tell me what they think. Please. I and my bf have been together for 2 years. I am so attached to him and love him to death. He loves me too. The problem is that he is a free bird he doesn’t want to live in this cold city and he wants to travel before he gets old. I am 20 and he is 24. I adore him and love him like crazy I would do anything in this world to be with him and take a bullet for him. He is leaving in 1 month and I don’t think he is coming back eve though he told me that someday we will be together again. He says that I changed his life and I am one of the most wonderful things that happened to him but he needs to live a little bit. He is the only person that I rely on we laugh on the same jokes and we are so good together. I have one month left and I don’t know what to do. I am suffering and crying I just can’t take it anymore. I don’t know if I will see him again and that is making me nuts. Please someone tell me something why and what should I do. Please guys it is the most horrible time of my life since I was born. Help me.

[rose36]

I am so sorry you are hurting so much. There really is nothing you can do except accept the reality. Grieve and feel your feelings fully. The more fully you allow your feelings to come up the more quickly they will pass. Three things that help me are friends, exercise, and journaling. Know that you will heal and you will be perfectly fine.

[Shopao]

for my advice.. try to talk to him again about not leaving you... but if he still leaves... im sorry... but thats what he wants... if you truly loves this person.. you have to let him go for his own happiness... yeah maybe someday... you and him will be together again if thats what faith wants.. cheers!

[PUAff]

I can perfectly understand where your boyfriend is coming from. Just like women need the feeling of being loved and cared for to make them feel feminine, real men need the feeling of achievement, of exploring the unknown, of getting out of their comfort zone to feel masculine. He needs to experience the world before he can commit himself to you. That is normal and it would be easier for both of you if you'd try to accept that. If he feels the same way about you as you do about him, he will come back.
Let him go, but only after letting him know how much you love him and telling him you'd wait for him. Showing him that you understand will probably bring you even closer.
Btw, this reminds me of Legends of Fall

[Shopao]

hey i love that movie..

[IanReynolds]

You can either accept that he's leaving you and will be sowing his wild oats while he's away and wait for him to return, or finish it now and move on.

Are you willing to wait for him knowing he has probably slept around while he's been away?