I've never really liked anyone

[Mathias-]

Hi everyone.

Name's Mathias, I just registered and have a question. Not one of the usual boring questions like "what should I do?" or "Is something wrong with me?". No, I just like to ask you, how many crushes have you had?

A little more info about me. I'm an 18 year old student for Sweden, I'm good looking and quite social. I like to go out a lot and I have no problem whatsoever to speak in front of a girl. I have a lot of friends both male and female and my life is currently going perfect. I couldn't have it better.
But there is one thing that have start bugging me. I have no love life at all.

The thing that made me think about it was the upcoming prom (yes, we have that in Sweden too) and I realised that I don't have anyone that I would like to go with. There isn't one girl in the whole school that I really like. All the girls I know are just friends.

Now, the thing is. Reason for me asking how many crushes you've had is because I'm able to count mine on my right hand, there have been three yet and the first one, I didn't really like, she was just pretty. And the other two, I've just met once and never again.

Now, I'm not desperately looking for a girlfriend or anything like that, I believe she will appear when the time is right. I'm just wondering, how many crushes you've had when you were 18? Did you just see her/him and love was there from the beginning or was it something that grew inside you until you realised it was there?


and ps: For those of you who wonder, I'm not gay and yes I'm sure.

[doppelgaenger]

When I was 18 (and the years before) I didn't like anyone either. Of course, I was attracted to several women (physically) and lusted, and you can't forget puppy love... but I didn't meet a woman that I actually was interested in and cared about until I was 19 years old.

It's difficult to find someone like that. Usually happens in the most unexpected of ways. For now, just enjoy your youth and don't force commitments on yourself when you already have doubts about the girls you're considering. Let the right one come along.

[Mathias]

Just so you know, we're two different guys.

[lastwish]

wow. Mathias? I've haven't seen you post for so long. Do you browse through LV as guest or something?

[Mathias]

wow. Mathias? I've haven't seen you post for so long. Do you browse through LV as guest or something?

Occasionally.

I just never have anything interesting to say anymore.

[Mathias]

And to answer the OP--just go with someone, maybe even one of your friends. Prom is to get together with your friends and have fun. Anything more is setting it up to be an awkward night.

[Rollerderby]

Just take a female friend. You have time to find someone you really like.

[Trimac20]

Hey Mathias. Maybe one reason I haven't met the 'love of my life' is I haven't even met her yet. I don't have the problem of knowing someone, totally falling for them and pining for them but not being able to have them. My problem is I haven't really met anyone I've liked. I guess I had crushes that lasted up to 3 months in high school, but they faded pretty quickly. The other girls I know are all just friends.

[Mathias-]

OK, I just have to tell you this. I went online and looked at my thread and I was actually shocked.
30 views, I didn't expect more but 7 replies? That's huge activity.

And then I looked at the replies and had a little laugh.

Ok, for those of you who missed the point, I only asked for how many crushes you've had, that included lust and puppy love.
I did not ask for who I should ask out for the pram (Mathias & Rollerderby), neither if I should grab a girl and run (doppelgaenger)
And Trimac20, I didn't really get that. Didn't you just say what I said?

Now, the reason for me bringing this up is because of my lack of crushes, lust and puppy love (which is basically the same thing as a crush).
I know I crave woman (due to the thing that I do when I am alone) but I just find it a little "empty" because I have almost never felt lust for anyone in particular

I'm not mad if anyone thinks that, it was probably just my bad English that made things confusing.

[LoveHurts09]

till 18? u're just talking about crushes? hmm 11 that i can remember the names for

just because they were pretty mainly and a couple had good personality too but they were spoken for.

as for u not having many crushes, maybe ur just not ready yet, if ur happy u dont need to change anything, u have plenty of time to find some1 and if ur like me u wont even be looking, love is totally different to crushes anyway

[Gigabitch]

Well, I think I'm starting to see a pattern, here. First you tell us you've never really liked anyone and then you have snarky comments about the replies you've seen in your thread. My conclusion: you're an ass and you don't really connect with other human beings.

Try getting that rod out of your ass and you might find yourself opening up to the possibility of a relationship.

[doppelgaenger]

Yeah, I think he's gay.

[Mathias-]

Well, I think I'm starting to see a pattern, here. First you tell us you've never really liked anyone and then you have snarky comments about the replies you've seen in your thread. My conclusion: you're an ass and you don't really connect with other human beings.

Try getting that rod out of your ass and you might find yourself opening up to the possibility of a relationship.

What!? Could you please tell me in what way I was snarky?
All I did was telling people that they were answering something that I didn't ask about and that I didn't understand why Trimac20 posted his post.

[Cain]

Yeah, I think he's gay.

I was thinking that as I read his thread.

I thought the little "ps" was rather ironic and was just him being defensive since he's obviously been told this by others.

[Mathias-]

I was thinking that as I read his thread.

I thought the little "ps" was rather ironic and was just him being defensive since he's obviously been told this by others.

And you haven't thought about the possibility that I perhaps read my own post and thought "Hmm, this really sounds like the "confused teen" scenario. I better put a little ps in the end so that I won't have the thread filled with messages that suggest that I perhaps am gay."