Bad First Date Idea?

[MetallicaRHCP]

Well, I asked a beautiful Russian blonde from my college out today and am pretty clueless on what to do for our first date. One of the only things I can think of so far is to bring her to my band's practice session this Friday. However, there are several problems with this idea. For one thing, my band members are pretty good looking guys, and although 2 out of 4 already have steady girlfriends, I am worried if any of them will flirt with her. Also, another major flaw with this proposition is that we are a heavy metal band, and I am not sure if she will be comfortable with this genre of music since she's a competitive dancer, and I am sure heavy metal is not what she dances to on her shows... Another thing to keep in mind is that band practices are INCREDIBLY loud... But, I think it will be quite fun since she is very talkative and energetic. It might also allow me to avoid those quiet moments that are sometimes present on first dates since my band members have a good sense of humour and are very talkative as well.

Oh, another idea I have is to go swimming together at a public pool since we are both very active. But I am worried if she will think swimming would be too intimate for a first date.

Does anyone agree that these two suggestions are good ideas, or can anyone give me some other suggestions?
Thanks.

[Spring Haze]

The first idea is terrible. That just goes to show you put no thought into is whatsoever. Ever hear of a touch of chivalry? Go somewhere you can communicate and enjoy the surroundings.

[12many]

well as for your band practice, maybe you could sing a song for her? lol hard metal, hmmm maybe a slow song would be good? then go to dinner and walk on the beach?

a nice walk on the beach for you guys to get to know each other, even though there might be some silent moments. same goes for dinner. Personally, i dont like going to the movies because you dont get to really talk to each other. Even though a movie will get that awkwardness off because you guys are paying attention to the movie, i would still prefer beach than a movie.

better yet, you say she is active right? maybe you could go play DDR? lol thats dancing, sorta...

[MetallicaRHCP]

Yeah, I guess band practice is not a good idea. By the way, I live in Montreal, Canada, which is not exactly California, so going to the beach is definitely out of the question. What about my swimming at a public pool idea?

[Henry123]

How about a dinner and a movie?

How long can someone sit and watch a band for? Sounds pretty boring to be honest. If shes not into music or into bands she'll be bored out of her mind and would like to get rid of you ASAP and go home.

[Mish]

Don't over complicate your first date. Go out for a coffee and just have a chat.

[MetallicaRHCP]

Don't over complicate your first date. Go out for a coffee and just have a chat.

Thanks for the advice, but I just don't see myself, and herself for that matter, enjoying something as simple as drinking coffee or watching a movie (by the way I don't watch television, nor do I watch any movies). Like I said before, she is very active and energic, so I don't think she would enjoy just sitting down and talking for a while. I need something more exciting with this girl, which is why I am leaning towards more physical activities at the moment.

Any other suggestions?
Thanks again and sorry for making this a little complicated...

[Mish]

I need something more exciting with this girl, which is why I am leaning towards more physical activities at the moment.

Any other suggestions?
Thanks again and sorry for making this a little complicated...

Once again, don't overcomplicate your first date. The first date is for you to get to know this person and her to get to know you, to find out if there is a connection and if it's worth pursuing anything further after that. This is a very important stage, you NEED to know if you can talk to each other and enjoy having a conversation in the process. If you do not, then stop right there, there is no need for any further dates. If the first date goes well, then you can take it further, have a game of tennis or go out rock climbing together.

[12many]

Once again, don't overcomplicate your first date. The first date is for you to get to know this person and her to get to know you, to find out if there is a connection and if it's worth pursuing anything further after that. This is a very important stage, you NEED to know if you can talk to each other and enjoy having a conversation in the process. If you do not, then stop right there, there is no need for any further dates. If the first date goes well, then you can take it further, have a game of tennis or go out rock climbing together.

haha rock climbing...

yea. dont overcomplicate things. You could go skydiving? its active and she'll get a rush of adrenaline that she would want hold on to you before you guys jump out (maybe).

haha i doubt that she would want to risk her life on a first date...but if she's into it then go for it.

Is it cold there at this time of the month? i use to live in vancouver and richmond, BC and at times its cold during these months.

[Henry123]

I'll would leave the swimming out for the first date. If she doesnt like how you look (befor she really gets to know you) she could reject you right away. Not a good move.

(Maybe I should make a post simply on what to do on dates)


Dont forget theres indoor artificial rock climbing facilities in some cities.
Theres also minature golf, theres various paint gun or laser tag facilities, or even take a class of judo with her (no striking here so she wont get hurt & be upset) or how about take her out for dancing? How about hiking? How about playing abit of pool (some like it)? How about ping pong? Tennis (already mentioned). Skydiving (already mentioned). Helicopter/airplane rides? Maybe volley ball on the beach when the weather warms up? Kayaking? Boat rides? Sailing? Water skiing? Bicycle ride around the city?

Theres amusing parks. Theres roller skating.
Theres bowling. Theres bingo. Theres casinos. Theres horse back riding.
Theres fairs. Theres museums. Theres art galleries (for the sophisticated types). If you have a car you can take her for a "ride" into the country . Dont forget picknics!
Theres concerts. Theres plays (if she's the artsy type). Movie festivals. Music festivals. Theres probably some site seeing places in your city.

Of course finally theres shopping. (Becareful here lol!). Take her to a mall go shop sighting or something.

Maybe take her to certain seasonal events like "the car show" "war reactments" "pioneer villages" "motorcycle show" "dog show" "horse riding shows" "fashion show"(yeah its a bummer if your a guy lol!) "cultural exhibitions" "food galleries" "cycle shows"

Of course know your restaraunts. I'm sure theres tons and tons of food around the world she has never tasted befor. It would be a fun experience for both of you.


At least summer is around the corner. So theres going to be alot more events going around in your city. You should look for them!

Laser tag
karting

[Henry123]

...I don't watch television, nor do I watch any movies). .....

Women tend to like seeing movies. You should consider it. Maybe she might not be the girl for you in the future but you should keep it in mind for any other women you meet in your life later.
Best not to limit yourself Bro.

Good luck with all this!

[Sonrisa]

uhm, how about asking her what she wants to do? i usually like to pick where to go on dates.

[steelsword]

I find that most women like the guy to make the choices. It makes them feel more special or something.

Movies are horrible choices for first dates (assuming you don't know each other that well) because you hardly get to talk at all (unless you're planning to do stuff after the movie).

I say stick with coffee/lunch/a snack, or do something like laser tag or go karting.

[LilyPetals]

I vote for the good ol' fashioned dinner and movie date.

[alovehangoverr]

I'm going to third the dinner/movie idea.

It's a first date-- it's your chance to get to talk/know each other/etc. I understand wanting to avoid the awkward silences.. but.. those are expected on a first date.

The band practice idea is a terrible one-- seriously. I've dated a lot of musicians, and one of the first I dated always wanted me to tag along for band practice. Blaring music and guys arguing/discussion song ideas wasn't exactly my idea of "quality time together."

A first date is supposed to be about you and her.. not you, your close friends, and heavy metal.