I completely adore my girlfriend of 8 months. We complement each other almost perfectly. Big plans are being made, if we fight we can work it out within an hour. I have been in a lot of relationships and this one is definitely worth it. But...
there is still one last BIG hurdle.
But she and I both have completely opposite views on sex due to past relationships. For her sex has no emotion involved and her ex-bf always made her feel like it was her job if she didn’t offer it to him and would guilt her if she didn’t, so she is very withdrawn. This guy was a genuine douche, if she didn’t put out he would just go hang out with one of his female friends. Sex is simply the least important thing to her. If it were solely her choice it would be once or twice a month max.
My views are sex and love go almost hand in hand, which I know is kind of backwards, but frequency and passion for both parties is very important to me. Spontaneity, passion, intensity, drive and having her initiate things occasionally would be tremendous, not demanding things but it would be nice. My ex really stopped enjoying sex but for different reasons, so at the end of that relationship I found myself a little love starved before coming into this one.
This has been causing a lot of conflict lately. Neither one way or the other makes both of us happy... is there a solution to this problem?