Very Sad

[faith1234]

Hello

My story is kind of a long one so i'll try to make it short.

My relation began more than 8 years ago. I was 21 and she was 16. We had a beautiful 5 years and 2 pretty awful ones. During the first five years we share every day together, had fun, travel, long summers, etc. The two last years we didn't even kiss so sex was out of the picture. Not one time i left her, i never questioned if i should have look around for another woman. I was so in love with her...

Anyway, she dumped me and started dating after one month. It was of course very painful. After a few months she wanted me back. We got together, she told me she had sex with this guy, etc.

The thing is, i understanded she needed to see the world and all that. Get to know people, focus on her job. So i decided to give it a try. It lasted two weeks, she had the same issues like not being ready for the relation and all that. But she told me i was the man of her life, that she only sees a future with me and that i have all the things she wants in a man.

After this, there was no relation whatsoever. If we bumped into each other we barely said hello.

about a month ago i wrote her so we could get togehther. We did and it was very nice. Then she started calling me, sending me mails, asking me for favours, even coming to my house to see my family.

Of course, i started wondering what was all this about. Soon i found out she met someone.

I needed to move on so i talked to her and told her i still loved her and asked her if she still felt the same way about me, if i was the man of his life and all that.

Of course she said no and that she had moved on.

I know i need to do the same thing. It's just not understanding how can you be willing to do anything for someone and not recieving the same back. I mean, every time she wanted me back i was moving on, dating women and all that, but when i ask the same from her i recieve a negative answer.

I think my only problem is loving her so much. I can't understand why she doesn't care about my feelings after all we've been through. I know, maybe she is not the right one, but i'm really sad.

Does anyone have an opinion, anyone thinks i should keep on fighting or maybe if i still stand a chance and maybe she'll come back?

[Spring Haze]

Sever the communication.

[Rollerderby]

why did you stop having sex? or kissing for that matter? and for two whole years???

No relationship can survive without sex. yeah, some people wait for marriage, but if you used to have sex and then stopped that is beyond bad news bears. I'm not surprised she had sex with this other guy, her libido didn't die obviously, but the attraction did. What caused this?

Sometimes people fall into old comfortable habits. You might be a habit. Don't walk around in this situation blindly. I think the damage to the relationship began after that 5 year mark. Please share if you feel comfortable as to why everything broke down around then.

[faith1234]

I hope i knew what happened. I was the same with her all the time. I even ask her if she wanted to get some help with a specialist, both of us.

I don't know. i wish i knew what is going on in her mind or if i still stand a chance

[Rollerderby]

I hope i knew what happened. I was the same with her all the time. I even ask her if she wanted to get some help with a specialist, both of us.

I don't know. i wish i knew what is going on in her mind or if i still stand a chance

I would put it out of your mind that this will ever work. She is being selfish letting you continue to care and using that to her advantage. She is not putting the same effort into the relationship as you were.

Trust me, you want someone who gives back what you give to them.