My Last Straw In A Realtionship

[loveyatoo16]

Hello!
Well I am brand new to this site and I am very happy I found this site. well here is my problem....
I have been dating this guy for almost 2 years. Since I was 17, and throughout the relationship trust has been broken time and time again. I am the type of person that wouldn't give up trying to fix things unless im dead.. not literally. But i'm at a crossroad where he continues to hide things and still be secretive. I know people are gonna ask "Why are you still with him?" And I guess you can say because I love him a lot. I just don't know what to do because I want us to work, but he is a pathological liar about everything that he could lie about.
Thanks..

[lostinconfusion]

i know this is an ask a male, but they don't seem to wanna take this one so here's what i think. i don't understand what you want advice on? you want to be convinced that it's ok and to stay with him? well it's not and there is no fix. you said it "he is a pathological liar". this is unhealthy. you need to get away from him. you are 17, you'll find more love and better. don't be afraid to be alone for a while, anything is better then being with someone who is always hurting you. break up with him and look to your friends and family for support if you feel it's too hard to stay away, they'll help you break free of him. but girl there is no fix for this.

[Thelovedoctor]

You want it to work, but he lies and very secrative.....

I'm sorry to say, but you're setting yourself up for a world of hurt with this one.

get out while you sill have the chance.

[IndiReloaded]

Dump him. You already know this.

[Tug]

Trust is the foundation of any relationship, without it you've got nothing. If the guy is constantly lying how can you give yourself to him unconditionally?

[Yggdrasil]

You don't love him. You love a imaginary idealized picture of an idealized partner which you are projecting onto him.

Do the right thing and dump the darn loser, give yourself time to heal from the damage he's done to you and then find yourself a mature, commited and loving partner who doesn't do all this.

[damn2008]

It can be VERY tough at a young age for you to break away from something you've established for so long...but don't sit there and think you can keep fixing something or someone. Just like Ygg said, people seem to get this fantasy in their head that their partner can turn everything around...even after repeated failures.

Move on, it'll be tough, but weigh the pros and the cons...you'll find something better or it'll find you.

[loveyatoo16]

I met him when I was 19, but thank you for your support and opinion

[Mish]

What kind of things is he hiding?

[vashti]

I suppose you will get rid of him when you would rather be alone than listen to one more lie.

Then, it will hurt, but if you remain strong, you'll get over him.

A word of warning: some girls are dumb, and they don't learn their lesson when they move on, and they end up picking the very same type of guy for their next boyfriend. Don't do this - learn your lesson. When they start to show signs of any kind that indicate they aren't a good catch, get rid of them. Don't make excuses for them, and don't accept their apologies. You are supposed to be weeding out the crap at your age - not tolerating it.

[gyatri]

You can't change people like this...they have to learn from their mistakes that they need to change.

You need to break up with him and never go back to him. Going back to him is pretty much telling him that his behavior upsets you, but you'll just forgive him and come back anyways. Breaking up with him and dumping his ass on the curb will leave him thinking what he screwed up on. If you don't go back to him, he's going to have to analyze his attitude and how he treated you.

He'll beg and plead and tell you he loves you when you break up and don't come back. You need to stand strong and leave him be. That includes completely cutting off communication with this guy. Stop talking, texting, socializing, or talking to people that will tell him what you're saying. He's not your problem anymore.

Then, just maybe he might change for himself. But the second you come back to him, he's back to where you started.

i totally agree with the above suggested quoted.just straight away dump him ,coz he deserves this & than only ,may be he would realise his mistakes.