For the females who think the guy needs to say "i love you" first...why?

[twinq]

I want to know the reasons for why a guy should say "I love you" first?

[Spicy]

They wait, because they are afraid the sentiment wont be reciprocated.

[SAVANAH]

many woman do yes and are afraid, but I guess I'm not one of them, I think it's a risk worth taking, and who cares if it's sooner that expected, the look on his face makes it all worth while....!
I believe that if you love someone you show and express it as much as you can, I shower the one I love with hugs and kisses all the time and wouldn't have it any other way.

People shouldn't be afraid of it, relationships are risks!

[LoveHurts09]

relationships are risks, exactly... but how much of ur life can u afford to risk? that is the question

[Yggdrasil]

Because they're insecure

I thought I should ellaborate a bit on my thoughts here:

In my opinion, people who feel secure with themselves have no problem expressing their feelings.

On the other hand, people who feel insecure, will have problems expressing their feelings.

Hope that makes more sense now.

[Petit Papillon]

I want to know the reasons for why a guy should say "I love you" first?

who said that?


Twoja stara heheheh

[Fuekal]

many woman do yes and are afraid, but I guess I'm not one of them, I think it's a risk worth taking, and who cares if it's sooner that expected, the look on his face makes it all worth while....!

[SAVANAH]

Living a life of fear and safety? where's the fun in that...
It'll just lead to tons of regret, I'm not saying go out and jump from a mountain but everyday is a risk any way, each time you start your car; walk into the street or grab a bite to eat...

Little do we know but our every action and every decision is a risk... why do people struggle to take those risks of the heart?

It might end up in heart ache but so might walking into the street end up in a gang fight; car accident... even DEATH.

Taking the risk might result in something beautiful and special, something magical and life changing.

We take risks everyday, life; love even education... all RISKS!

Where to draw the line?
When the negatives of taking the risks out way the positive by far.... when you can go on living and not have it bother you on a daily basis.
It's all part of life and we don't realize it but its a gift, the gift of choice.

Live people!

[ecojeanne]

the 'love' word. it has deeper meaning to some more than others. some people say it and don't mean it or half heartedly mean it. i remember my ex told me he loved me after dating for 2 weeks..jeeze what a fake i thought at the time but then he justified it as there are different levels of love...i call it 'like' but anyway. it gets thrown around a bit too much imo.

i don't think there are many guys like my ex and i think majority say it WHEN they mean it. girls say it to provoke a response from men sometimes. i think men are generally quite scared of the word coz it means this one is gonna cling on now-for the fear of commitment types. thats why women hold back and wait for the guy to say it otherwise some guys get stupidly scared and run off

[Yggdrasil]

the 'love' word. it has deeper meaning to some more than others. some people say it and don't mean it or half heartedly mean it.

Haha, I remember the missus not understanding why I so rarely said: "I love you". One day she asked me: "Why don't you say it more often?".

I told her pretty much the same. From what I recall, I said something to the extend of: "Many people say 'I love you', but don't mean it. To them it became more a habbit than something else. When I say I love someone, I mean it. And as you know, or should know, I do express my love and appreciation for you also in other ways, like for example when you are in the kitchen doing your cooking, and I sneak up behind you and wrap my arms around you and kiss you in the neck, or when I pat your bum while walking by and wink at you, or by stopping you while you're in the middle of running around and holding you for a while."

She just smiled and never mentioned it again.

I think she understood

[bluesummer]

You know, I thought about this and realized that I'd never been the first to say I love you to any man. Ever. The reason for me was that I've never been that quick to actually fall in love. I remember the first time my ex-husband said it to me and I said "Thank you" because I wasn't sure I felt the same.

For some girls it's insecurity, for some it's that they're not sure what they're feeling yet, and others just don't entirely trust a man's intentions in the relationship until he confirms it.

[soulsurvivor23]

But the thing is, no matter who says "I love you" first, it's a risk. It's a risk for the guy and it's a risk for the girl. If it was something like a marraige proposal, based on how I was raised i'd think that it should be me doing the proposing. But if it's something like saying "I love you" I don't think I should be expected to say it first if we both feel the same way.