Hi
Thanks for reading this, I'm new to this site.
About 6 weeks ago my ex boyfriend finished with me. He didn't like the way I had reacted with something. I have fully admitted that it was really out of character of me on how I spoke to him/had reacted but basically I had felt confused as he had looked really guilty about something which I quizzed him on as I wasn't sure whether to believe him or not. It really came down to just not knowing each other for too long (only about 6 weeks). He said he felt shocked and then said alot of hurtful things back to me, which on reflection I felt was far worse than how I had initially reacted. He was quite critical of me and quite insulting saying things i.e. he wanted to meet a Catholic girl and one who was younger than me, that I wasn't the girl for him, also that he wasn't ready for commitment and that he was thinking of moving abroad to work, and that he only fancied me to an extent!! I felt devestated as he hadn't been honest with me about any of these things and had said earlier that he wasn't afraid of commitment! I had even apologised to him a few times but it made no difference. I felt very guilty and blamed myself alot for what had happened and that he had got the wrong impression of me.
We had got on very well up to then and there was alot of chemistry between us. Unfortunately I didn't keep to the no contact rule and a week later I sent him a text telling him how genuinely sorry I was and also an email as I felt upset about his change of heart as it was just out of the blue. He called a few days later and said that he wanted to be friends and that we could meet up soon. Said that he had no grudges and that things had been "fun"! - Well that certainly made me feel better! He confessed that he only partly meant everything that he had said to me before. I felt that maybe he was still annoyed with me so I sent him another email (yes I know!) explaining myself about what I think had happened etc as I felt he hadn't given me the chance to talk to him properly on the phone. It was quite a jovial email to help cheer him up. He later admitted that he enjoyed reading it.
He text to say that he would like to be friends and about two weeks later (about 1.5 weeks ago) we met up for a friendly coffee. I felt very nervous and it was quite awkward at first but soon we relaxed and surprisingly got on quite well considering everything that we had said to each other previously! Neither of us mentioned anything that had happened, we mostly just had fun and enjoyed each other's company and were quite playful and teased each other. It felt good and we had a pleasant afternoon. Things ended on a good note when we said goodbye and we even flirted a little. He looked genuinely happy. He said that it would be good to meet up again but I haven't heard from him since meeting up 1.5 weeks ago. Should I contact him? I had last initiated contact with him to meet up last time and I know that friendship should be equal but I just don't know what to do or think. I am even thinking that he may have met someone else as when he was keen at the start and was actively persuing me when we met. I know things are different now but I would like it for us to get back together (we haven't discussed it) but I am afraid of being rejected again. I am wondering whether he may be thinking it isn't a good idea to meet again or if he's playing games waiting to see if I will contact him first. This experience has left me feeling quite depressed and has affected my self esteem alot. He is going on holiday in about 2 weeks. Does anyone have any advice? Thank you.