I Just Don't Know

[easy/lucky/free]

So some may say the answer is obvious but whoever knows the situation... it is.. but isn't... if that makes sense...

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 3 years... this weekend we got into a little arguement and then turned into a long emotional conversation about our relationship and he drops some bombs on me that I wasn't at all expecting. Deep down he feels he needs space from me, not because of me as a person, but because of himself. He still loves me more than I can imagine and will never stop loving me (and I know it's true when he says it), but he doesn't really want a girlfriend but doesn't want to not be with me. I told him that if he chooses to break up with me that he loses me forever because I'm not someone you can just put on hold to go party and live it up for a while and come back to when you want to settle down (didn't say it as a threat, just was being honest so he doesnt think i am an idiot) Well after i said that, he started crying more because he didn't want to loose me and that he doesn't want to break up with me right now, but it may happen in the future... But when we calmed down a few hours later he talked about how he never wants to hurt me and that he has two different people in his head (ya this sounds crazy but it's not lol) and that he doesn't want to loose me... We both love each other a lot and I thought we were meant to be but this weekend has me pretty confused... Kind of need some third party insight and advice on this...

is this for sure over? what should I do... anyone understand my situation... uuugh its confusing as hell

[Junket]

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[Yggdrasil]

Maybe he feels smothered, maybe he has some thinking to do. Maybe he's confused and need to sort out for himself what he wants from life. Maybe he feels trapped. Etc.

On the other hand, he may just be playing safe, thinking about hooking up with someone else and keeping you as a safety net if that doesn't work out.

It's a catch 22 but I believe the best you can do is listen to him, take what he says word value and give him space.

Hope that makes sense.

[damn2008]

I'm guessing he's just getting around to being 21 and he wants to live it up?

This is nothing unusual...it just depends on what kind of "living it up" he wants to do and whether you're willing to give him the space to do it.

But at the same time, you have to consider your own thoughts and feelings if that is not the type of man you want in your life and you want someone calmer.

Then again if you aren't 21 yet...you know life changes a lot for you when you do become that age huh?

[easy/lucky/free]

hmm ya i will be 21 this year and he's 22... i dont know.. just confused by him and not sure what to tihnk