Fighting FOR a Girl - The Metaphor.

[MarEmeTje]

Is it wrong to try to get closer to a girl even though you know that she is currently 'talking' to another guy?

Right now, I've been good friends with this girl for about 2 years and I've fallen for her. I found out only recently that she used to have a crush on me but I missed out on that chance and she moved on to one of my other friends.

However, he doesn't treat her well and despite him ignoring her half the time, she still manages to want to spark a relationship.

Should I 'keep fighting' or lay down a bit so she can be closer to the other guy? If I can't have her develop any affection for me, I still want her to be happy.

[ShyGuy81]

If she is just talking then it is not wrong, the fact that it is your friend however could result in some conflict if not your not careful though.

I was once very good friends with a girl and eventually fell for her, she had a boyfriend but they broke up. We used to take the same course but there was only the two of us on it so we spent a lot of time together. I never know even to this day if she knew I like her as I was always to scared to make a move, I still regret not telling her when I had the chance.

Does she know how you feel? How did you find out she had a crush on you? She may just see you as really good friends and if she had a crush on you but you never reacted (granted because you didn't know) then she may not know you felt the same way.

Depending on how close she is with the other guy, and depending on how you found out about the crush you may be able to subtly let her know that you felt/feel the same way.

The questions you have to ask yourself are, can you still manage to be her friend if she gets with this other guy without it tearing you apart? And are you willing to take the chance that if you tell her it may affect your friendship in a negative way?

Lee

[Yggdrasil]

You snooze you loose.

Back off. You can tell her with pictures and diagrams he's not good to her, she has to experience such herself.

Till then, stay low.