born with dream die like a lover

[broken4ever]

well i got a friend he had a prob he is from hindu origin and he love a gurl from muslim origine they both in love but the also know thier parents will never accept i totally disagree with tht in ths world their r too much of discrimination coman damit why we all human wht to tell tht guy he is really said if they broke this guy life will be over he really love tht gurl but destiny is against us wht too do frienddetiny aainst them or it the thik of elders they thik tht we should live like they had do but tht totally fake i thik
we r the next generation we should change this mentality
well if i love tht gurl am wrong thn why i hate my life without her
iam gona die else prefer to stay alone all my life untill i die or plz
god take me back i dont wna live in this world again

w

CLEANING UP: Wrap up any left-over candle wax, incense
ashes, and unused materials in a piece of black cloth.
Secure it with black thread and tie it. Throw it out at a
crossroads or bury it in a graveyard.

PURIFICATION AND PROTECTION: Because breaking folks up is an
Enemy Trick, you must cleanse yourself and protect from
retribution. To take off your sin, prepare a bath by
steeping the Hyssop Herb in a pot of boiling rain water or
spring water. Light the two white candles, stand between
them, and pour the Hyssop bath over your head while reciting
the 51st Psalm ("Cleanse me with Hyssop; wash me and I shall
be whiter than snow"). For protection, drive the 9 Devil's
Shoe Strings into the dirt across the path to your door-step
to tangle up anyone who may try to retaliate and cross you.
Put the Devil Pods outside or behind your front and back
doors to repel any evil work that may be directed toward
you.
WHY YOU MAY NEED AN ANTI-LOVE SPELL
(WITH A SIMPLE ANTI-LOVE SPELL INCLUDED)

> > I need help desperately. The man I love most in the world now or
> > ever suddenly left ... over 8 months ago. There is more to the
> > story, however, the essence is that he was with me for 5 years
> > and as we got closer and closer to "marriage" he suddenly
> > exhibited "cold feet" and yet kept trying to not be that way.
> > Within 3 weeks I found that he ... was seeing someone else. ...
> > I have tried several love spells ... Sometimes I get a glimmer
> > of positive reaction, but nothing has gotten him back so far.
> > He is ... strong willed ... with a block on his emotions...
> > He has some very sensitive issues that foster the massive fear
> > of being hurt emotionally and ... he needs to be in command of
> > all that ... the love he gave and promised seems to still be
> > haunting me and as i still feel that we are supposed to be as one,
>
> To me, it looks like you would do better with a fall-out-of-love
> spell for yourself. Or, alternatively, one to attract the best man
> for you -- possibly one you don't yet know; possibly this one.
>
> He sounds like someone who would be a difficult marriage partner, for
> one thing.


This sort of story is oh-so-common. It really breaks my
heart to hear it again and again.

A man or woman i call the "giver" loves a woman or man i
call the "taker."

The giver believes that the taker is his or her soul-mate or
best lover of all time. The taker plays a yes-no-yes-no
game, agreeing verbally, but physically alternating between
drawing closer and pulling away.

The giver declares his or her love and a desire for union.
The taker temporizes by promising all manner of things --
to have sex, to break off with another part-time lover, to
leave a spouse, to marry, to get off drugs, to find a job,
etc. -- without ever fully delivering on the promises.

The giver is hurt. The taker produces substitute gifts in
place of what was promised -- flowers instead of a date, a
date instead of a weekend together, a weekend together
instead of marriage. If the giver is deeply in love, the
taker can maintain the relationship on little more than a
few letters, words, or dates, without ever having to do
anything he or she has promised.

Sometimes, after months of disappointed expectations, the
giver draws away. Then the taker makes a big effort to come
through with something that was promised -- he or she breaks
off with the other lover, spends a full weekend, gets on
medication for depression, finds a job, or some such.

However, things soon return to the way they were before. In
short order, the taker pulls away again -- staging a fight
or blow-up, quitting the job believed necessary to the
couple's plans for marriage, being discovered with another
lover or using drugs, using cruel language, threatening to
commit suicide -- and the giver is again left baffled and
hurt. The couple may then split up temporarily, but the
giver persists in loving the taker, so the taker starts the
entire cycle again, making new promises and breaking them.
This can go on for years.

This sort of cycle resembles, in its dynamics but not in its
details, the cycle that occurs in an abusive, battering, or
violent relationship; the energy level is much different, of
course, but the raising of expectations for change and the
failure to keep promises are identical.

The couple may be middle-aged, too, not kids, so the idea
may arise that the come-and-go lover is not really a taker
but instead is a potential fellow-giver who is merely
suffering from "past hurts" or "fears" such as an abusive
childhood or a former "bad" marriage, or is having a
"mid-life crisis," or going through a "mental breakdown"
which must be fixed somehow before he or she will settle
into a loving union. If this avenue of thought is pursued,
the giver becomes what i call a "self-basting turkey," who
spends a lot of time trying to analyze the taker's "past
hurts" and trying to help to fix them -- reading books on
difficult relationships at the very least, but even going so
far as to deal with social workers, therapists, probation
officers, doctors, or an ex-spouse on behalf of the taker.

These efforts by the giver may conceal the fact that the
taker is ambivalent about relationships in general or this
relationship in particular, or that the taker may be
mentally ill, or may be drug addicted, or may be engaged in a
deliberately deceitful strategy of using the giver as a
stop-gap sex-partner or financial helper until someone he or
she deems a better match comes along.

Eventually the giver discovers something unbearable -- that
the taker has another lover, has gone back to his or her
spouse, is really homo/hetero sexual, is not in treatment,
is still using drugs, has been arrested again, or some such
-- and there is another blow-up. Then the cycle begins
again.

If the taker actually breaks things off permanently (usually
by finding another lover), the giver, who has been
self-trained into patience for so long and has given so
much, is devastated. His or her pain usually centers around
the unfulfilled promises made by the taker and on the fact
that he or she believes this was a "fated" or "spiritual"
relationship. The giver may find it almost impossible to
believe that after years of learning to accommodate the
taker's "fears," he or she has been dumped utterly and
finally. The taker, especially a very cruel one, may then
offer "friendship" as a substitute gift for the love or
marriage that was promised and not delivered, leading the
giver into yet another futile cycle of belief that the
couple can somehow "reconcile," especially through the use
of love-spells.

What the giver needs to do is draw a limit. I found mine,
when i was in just such a situation, from the works of Lewis
Carroll, the author of "Alice in Wonderland." In his book
"The Hunting of the Snark," Carroll introduces the phrase
"What i tell you three times is true."

This means that if someone says something THREE TIMES, if
events repeat THREE TIMES, you are justified in taking them
as "true."

Don't demand that the taker make any declaration of love
three times in a row; promises are his or her stock in trade
and count for little.

Don't warn the taker that he or she has "three chances" to
get things right.

Just listen to what's going down. Pay attention to the truth
in threes.

For instance, if the taker tells you THREE TIMES that he or
she will be somewhere on a certain date but fails to arrive,
then you have been dumped. I'm not talking about a situation
where he or she is late or calls and cancels ... i'm talking
about a date for which he or she does not show up at all. If
that happens three times, there's no point in your getting
mad -- what you were told three times is true. You are not
wanted. The end.

Do you need more examples? Okay, try these -- if the taker
says THREE TIMES that he or she will file for divorce with
an ex but does not do so, says THREE TIMES he or she wants
to make an appointment with a psychiatrist but doesn't, says
THREE TIMES that he or she is putting a piece of property on
the market to raise money to move in with you but doesn't,
says THREE TIMES that your "intensity" makes him or her
"nervous," or says THREE TIMES that he or she loves you more
than life itself but explains that he or she cannot move in
with you because there'll be "problems" with your children,
pets, or refrigerator -- then that's the TRUTH for that
person. "What i tell you three times is true." The
relationship will never get any better.

Okay, you don't believe me. You say, "But, catherine, THREE
TIMES doesn't prove anything, it's just a number."

That's right. It's just a number. So, okay, let it go to
FOUR TIMES.

It happened again. See?

Do you feel any better because you gave that person one more
chance, wasted one more day, one more week, one more month,
or one more year of your life?

I don't mind if you let the string of events run out to six
times or eight times or ten times before you get the
picture. But somewhere, sometime, you have GOT to pick
a number, draw a line, and stick by it

Once your personal line is crossed, it's time to take
action.

You still love the taker. You are hurting. What should you
do?

Either perform the black walnut spell at the Lucky Mojo
Cut and Clear Spells page, or try this

SIMPLE BLACK CANDLE ANTI-LOVE SPELL

Carve the taker's name and the words "GOOD BYE" on a black
candle. Dress it with Uncrossing oil. At its base place a
broken or unlinked length of fine chain (you can find a
broken length of bead chain at the bottom of the Uncrossing
Oil i make and sell, or just break a piece of jewelry
chain). Light the candle and as it burns, have a good cry
and say "good bye." When the candle has burned about
half-way, use its flame to set afire a photo or name-paper
of the taker, then extinguish the candle in the ashes of the
paper and throw the whole mess, broken chain and all, away
at a crossroads in the dark of the night or bury it in a
graveyard. Go home and bathe in astringent and pungent
protective and mind-clearing herbs such as eucalyptus,
walnut, bay, and the like (e.g. 13 Herb Bath) and get on
with your life.

Good luck,

[Mish]

Moved all broken's mumbo jumbo into this one thread.

It was too long so I had to erase half of it, don't think anyone will mind.