Trust and Past help

[loveless14037]

This is pretty long, so get ready


My girfriend, kind of..
had her prom on may 8th,
She had gone with her ex-boyfriend that i always hesitated with.

I had met him a week before at the mall and he has the worst, annoying personality.
He has sex with a lot of people and tried to with her when they were dating, he digitally(finger) "raped" her at that same mall- although she didn't say anything, she just froze.
She knows that he is someone she's not supposed to be around, she's heard it from almost everyone that loves her, but she still often goes against it uncaringly and has told me she is drawn to talking to him and wants to be around him.
I can't help but get emotional at the thought of anything of him even his name.

Anyway, he's been jealous of her and I ever since we started dating. They were in the car with other friends and it was really late at night. He kissed her, again, again. From what she told me she shut off. And i believe that because she does-she shuts off at moments like that. But I have problems jsut thinking about it, how she let him kiss her, maybe secretly she liked it, what was i to her at that moment. I dont know.

Frankly, i believe since that night, it was thhose simple kisses, that she kind of liked him again and it confused her, and she broke it off with me.

I know life is not fair, but I deserve better than that.
I am good to her.



Frequently I'd ask her to stop talking to him, all ways. She denied sometimes and got defensive of him all the time. She promised me she wouldnt but she broke it soon after. That repeated 2 more times.
I majorly didn't trust her. So i decided to just sit back, give up.


Just a few weeks ago, she actually had some guilt in her one night and she told me she knows hes bad, shes going to try and not, and asked me to help her not to talk to him. She "promisedpromisedpromisedpromisedpromisedpromi sed" me she wouldn't again.
And i said, should i trust you this time?
she said im sorry, yes, and please.
So i did.
It went well as far as im concerned, until i came over a few days ago and I needed to use her phone to send a text to my mom and i saw 2 numbers in the recently sent contacts, her ex-bf's best friend, and a six digit number following by "textfree.(something)"

I remembered how she told me he doesn't have a phone but you can send messages through itouches.
I broke in sweat, kinda mad and sad. She didnt see me though i think. It hurt that she even promised she wouldnt text anyone on our vacation, and to find out she did, and a few of them was him.


She's a really great girl and loves me too, she feels that i help her straighten her life out, am perfect-mistakes and all, and she's smart, and fun. She is one of the most unique person i've ever met really..



It's hard to tell her my feelings though.
We've tried to talk things out, we somehow end up arguing or fighting and she always comes out on top.
I just dont know if i should confront her about it?
Or pretend and move on..
I was even going to tell her how happy it made me she was really starting to change, how proud i was.
But now I'm really tired of lies.

[Asip4u]

I don't even know why you're still with this girl or even thinking about her...There are many nice girls so don't even try to give me that excuse... You did so many things for her and was a nice guy and she chose a loser over and over...Forget about her, move on!

[msboss]

If she can't stop communicating with this guy there has got to be something still there and unfortunately you are caught up in the middle. Move on and live your life.

[CocoChanel]

The only reason she comes out on top is because she knows you are a sucker. She knows that no other dude would put up with that bullsh*t but you. She can't leave her ex alone and you can't leave her alone... sounds like both are in the same boat.

[jimmy1200]

Long term this looks like to have no future, if she cannot leave the EX go then I cannot see this happeneing and her changing, which she does not seem to be at all, what else has she done that you havnt found out?

I'd leave her, pick yourself up, stop being walked over and find someone who wants you and only you!