If you found out...

[Teezy]

If you found out your girlfriend of 3 years had slept with 40 people before you, would you break up with her? This is hard situation. I love this girl but that is such an unattractive thing to me, to be so insecure to whore yourself out like that. Ugh, it's been killing me ever since I found out. It's like I imagine these 40 penises on the wall like trophies and mine is just another face in the crowd. Correct me if I'm wrong here fellas.

[CocoChanel]

I sure would. Even if she were 50 years old that's too many damn encounters.
That's trifling.

[misombra]

If you found out your girlfriend of 3 years had slept with 40 people before you, would you break up with her? This is hard situation. I love this girl but that is such an unattractive thing to me, to be so insecure to whore yourself out like that. Ugh, it's been killing me ever since I found out. It's like I imagine these 40 penises on the wall like trophies and mine is just another face in the crowd. Correct me if I'm wrong here fellas.

when did you find out? if you love her like you say you'll probably get over it with time.

[Teezy]

I found out 2 years ago...still painful to think about. I feel like I haven't been IN love with her ever since. I love her, but I'm not IN love with her. Tough to explain.

[incineration]

if you really love her then you can accept her past..

[girl68]

If you STILL can't get over it, you either have not tired hard enough... or that's the end.

So... either tell yourself each and every time the thought even STARTS to come to you... tell yourself over and over... the past is the past, she's changed... she's mine now... I love her. Tell yourself over and over, tell yourself to shut the hell up and think about.... sport (fill in with anything of interest to you).

Or, dump her now- it's been 2 years and still kills you... that's fine, but let the damn girl on her way to find a guy who thinks that her number is just that... a number.

Everyone deserves a shot to be really happy... even your previously slutty gf; who has since obviously changed her ways...

[Lonely Island]

Joe Budden: "When a girl tells you how many men she has slept with, automatically add 15"


She has probably slept with 55.....sorry to be captain bring down

[Mish]

It is a big number, but you've been with her now for 3 years. You've made a decision to stay with her 2 years ago when you found this out meaning you accepted this fact and you accepted her as is. Now you have to take responsibility for your decision and just take her as she is. She is not sleeping with any one now, so just let it go. Be happy that this is (apparently) the only major issue in your relationship. A lot of others are not as lucky as you.

[CocoChanel]

How old is she?

[PAiNLESS]

That's past.. nothing you can do to fix her "things" now.. can ya?

Now just tell her the truth and say to win your trust.
Are you still suspecting her of having sex with other men than you?

[candle23]

If you found out your girlfriend of 3 years had slept with 40 people before you, would you break up with her? This is hard situation. I love this girl but that is such an unattractive thing to me, to be so insecure to whore yourself out like that. Ugh, it's been killing me ever since I found out. It's like I imagine these 40 penises on the wall like trophies and mine is just another face in the crowd. Correct me if I'm wrong here fellas.

considering i'm a virgin, yes.

[boobaa]

On the other note, since you have been with her for 3 years, you can consider yourself to be better than the 40 other dicks that have been inside her.

[Charlie Boy II]

That's a lot of cock. It'd play on my mind as well.

[philippine3]

would you? past is past! unless you dont love the person !!!

[Troubleshooter]

My 20 year old girlfriend never told me the number of lovers she had before me and she knows i dont want to talk about her sexual history.

Yet she did tell me she was sexually active at age 14, and jokes/comments from her or her friends pieced together the picture she was quite a slut before she met me. I guesstimate she had atleast 25 guys/girls before me and did pretty much every sexual activity possible.

VERY unsettling, since i was a virgin when met her. Sexual experience wise we seemed eachother's opposites.

I learned to cope with it and just not think about it. Of course, it hurts to hear a male friend of hers make a sly comment to another guy about "how flexible she is in bed", because that friend is also a former lover.