Dire situation

[Nyx]

Hello,

I'm Nyx and I have a problem. For three years now I've had a relationship with a girl who truly loves me but isn't making me happy. This is made worse by the fact that we live together out of monetary necessity. For almost as long, I have had a best friend (girl) who thought she was in love with me, but turned out to be a lesbian. I have known about her sexual orientation for about a year. For as long as I have known her I have always been attracted to her, but recently (half a year) I have utterly and completely fallen in love with her. I have never hidden this from her and it never changed our friendship. She also loves me, but more in a completely intimate best friend kind of way. Recently however, she started thinking about experimenting with straight sex. As I am the man who is closest to her we talked about trying it out. As I really love her I asked to take it slow (the faster we go, the faster it could end) and we've done nothing more than kissing and some minor caressing and hugging. Now my problem is: I'm sometimes afraid that she's doing all this out of guilt. We've talked about it and she says it's not the case. According to her it is pleasant, but also odd because I'm a guy. I would want nothing more than to keep sailing this course but at the same time I'm worried that this strange relationship might end up in either a lifetime of unhappiness for her if it keeps going, or a terrible broken hart for me if it doesn't. Meanwhile, my current girlfriend has no life besides me and I would feel terribly guilty if I break up with her to be with my best friend and it turns out this doesn't last long.

Should I end it before everyone gets hurt, or should I try to escape this depressing relationship by embracing my new found happiness with my best friend and just risk it?

[carl1222]

You have two different problems that you are trying to combine into one.

1) Your unhappiness in your current relationship,

2) The possibility of a romance with a lesbian you are attracted to.

First, why are you unhappy with your girlfriend?

Second, what is your friend's history of attraction to / relationships with other girls? Other guys?

There are far too few details to work with here.

Carl.

[Gigabitch]

Whatever the trappings of your situation, the fact is that you're messing around with someone else while you have a girlfriend. That's called cheating and it sucks. Stop it, either by breaking up with your girlfriend or cutting the sexually confused girl off.

[girl68]

There is not one good thing that will result from this. Except perhaps getting your jollies off, which as you know lasts only minutes.

So you have a gf that you're staying with out of pity, because she loves you but you don't love her. Wow, what a great guy you are... NOT.

You are in love with a lesbian you also call your bestfriend.

Said lesbian doesn't even know if she is a lesbain and wants to screw her bestfriend for a trial run.

Said lesbian knows you have a gf, knows you're in love with her and STILL wants to screw you- just to have a straight experience. Wow, what a great friend she is... NOT.

Said lesbian also doesn't want anyone to get hurt or confused... SERIOUSLY? Wow.
You don't know what to do? I'll tell you...

GTFO of it all! Leave your pity party of a gf (don't worry- she will get over you, especially if you tell her why). Don't screw your lover, lesbian, bestfriend- could it get more complicated?!?

Here's what you'll probably do: continue to not love and be happy with your current relationship. You shall soak up all her love without giving her any- you sweetheart, little angel you... Then you will continue to be emotionally unfaithful with your bestfriend. And your bestfriend will continue to screw with your head, your heart and your body. Because let's face it- she likes vaginas and you have a penis. After she screws you beyong repair she's gong to suck on your penis, and put it in her vagina only to find out- yes in fact she IS a lesbian. You end up: brokenhearted, as suspected. Don't worry though... your pity party gf will be there for you to cry about the loss of your lesbo friend. Damn... poor gf.

[Charlie Boy II]

hahaha you're right buddy, this is indeed a dire situation. This is not going to end well. In fact, I think it will all end spectactularly badly. For you, for your girlfriend, and for you lesbian friend.

[Bumble_bee]

you moron....

[Charlie Boy II]

hahaha, I actually have a best friend who is a lesbian. The difference is though, I didn't try and have sex with her. I actually couldn't think of anything worse.

[girl68]

hahaha, I actually have a best friend who is a lesbian. The difference is though, I didn't try and have sex with her. I actually couldn't think of anything worse.

When one knows they like penises or vagainas they just know...

Imagine your reaction when you're heavy petting, making out... my you're getting turned on. That lump in your pants grows, you're totally feeling lusty in love. You start taking off her clothes. You likey! She takes off your shirt, she hestiates slightly you caress her, she loosens up, she proceeds to take off your pants and BAM: "eww a penis!"

[Nyx]

These are pretty much the answers I expected and I agree with most of it. Just needed to hear it from someone else. Thanks everyone.